Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Should I tell my gf if she does something that bothers me?

theapprentice

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I'm not sure on whats the right move or thing to do. My girlfriend did something that I didn't like and I'm kind of mad over it. The thing is that if I show my face and let her know she made me mad that could be a manly thing to do, because I told it straight to her face. Or I can not tell her and act like it never bothered me in the first place and if what she did was intentional she would wonder why I didn't flinch.

So I don't know what the right thing to do is?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Charm&Style

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wow...your type of thought is very irrational.

your in a relationship...wake up bro.

talk to her and tell her that her action was not called for and has annoyed you.
 

Themanthatcan

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Hell no.You better communicate your boundaries, or one thing will lead to the next and you'll end up getting walked all over.
 

Jay Jay

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Depends what she did.

If you are being petty or insecure; no.

If she's really stepped out of line; of course!

When my girls do something ****ty to get a reaction out of me I try to throw it back in their face. For example if I'm out with one of my FBs and they flirt with another guy I'll just give em the finger from across the room with a cheeky smile on my face and hit on some other girls.

JJ
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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theapprentice

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Yeah

Its probably insecurity inside me thats speaking. I get the feeling that, thats what it is.

She didn't do anything to step the boundaries or disrespect me in anyway when I look at it from a better perspective.

So I guess its good I took some time to cool down otherwise I would have made an ass out of myself.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Themanthatcan said:
Hell no.You better communicate your boundaries, or one thing will lead to the next and you'll end up getting walked all over.
Unless you are overreacting to something minuscule, then you just sound petty.
 
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