Should i take the risk?

[Essa Rios]

Hey guys.....I've been dating this girl that i met at a wedding for about a month now. She is by far the hottest chick i've ever dated. My friends are even surprised/jealous i'm dating her. Picture a latina Megan Fox, yeah i finally hit the jackpot.

We have done mostly everything except have sex and it was driving me crazy as i really have wanted to go all the way with her. She has an amazing body and when we mess around she takes off all her clothes expect her thong, while i'm always fully nude really to go.

Yesterday she confess to me that she has vaginal herpes Thats
why we never went all the way. Of course i was disappointed and also thankfull that she told me before we did it. Because of this i respect her alot.
She goes on to say that an ex gave her to her about a year ago and that she's taking medication to keep it under control.

I'm not sure what to do now. I dont want to take a risk by catching a permanent STD, but she is absolutely sexy as hell and part of me says just go for it with protection of course. I really like her alot, she's funny, smart, beautiful and i know she like me as well as she is always calling to hang out together. But i just cant imagine dating a girl with herpes, i'll never enjoy the sex cause i'll be thinking of getting infected. What would you guys do???

 

[DonJuanit0]

herpes can also make sex painfull for her and if you get it too it will be painfull for you too! I would just ask a doctor if a condom can fully protect me and then move on! Don't do it if you don't have an experts opinion...

 

[Bible_Belt]

There are a lot of STD threads lately.

Most guys will tell you to run. I have been in the same spot. I moved in with a girl after college who did not realize that she had herpes. Her first outbreak had been treated in a third world country with poor healthcare. They just gave her a cream to put on it without telling her what she had. Then she did not get her second outbreak until two years later when she and I were together. I almost left her. It was not an easy decision, but I stayed. We ended up getting married, and for years, I would run to the bathroom sink after sex to wash my d!ck in peroxide. Every time I got the slightest itch, I would almost have a panic attack.

But I never got it. We never used condoms, either. Herpes is contagious just before and during an outbreak. There is some research that says transmission via asymptomatic viral shedding is possible, but I think that is all theory. Most people spread herpes by not knowing what it is they have. People just think it is a rash or bug bite, or they honestly don't care at all about their partner. If she is in tune with her body, she will feel a tingling sensation just before an outbreak. That is when to not have sex. The meds she is on will reduce the frequency of outbreaks substantially.

I spent hours in a med school library researching the actual odds of catching herpes in a relationship. The best answer I could find was a study of married couples where one partner was HSV+ and the other HSV-. The study concluded that the odds of transmission were about ten percent per year. I was married for seven years, which would have given me a roughly 70% chance of catching it. Thankfully, I never did.

If she is good at avoiding sex during an outbreak, I think you will be ok for a long time. Probably, that is. Just know what you are getting into and be calculated with your risk-taking.

 

[Captain]

Avoid. For all you know she has other STDs too, ones that even she may not know about.

 

[Ice882]

For all you know she has other STDs too, ones that even she may not know about.

That's a risk with literally every girl you could ever have sex with.