"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Should I stay or should I go?

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Originally posted by TheTraveller
Oh yes, I do want to experience more, so I should move on based on that. I live in a city in which there are MANY smart people, many types of people.

Yet, at the same time, I just feel unsure as to whether or not I can meet somebody else who is smart and nice and caring. But with better looks.

Life is an experience and perhaps I need more. The only worry is never being able to find a nice girl again.
There are lots of nice girls, you just have to find them, and that is what the Don Juan theories try to do.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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TheTraveller

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well, that is true. I've figured out some personal issues dating back to childhood in the past 2 months, hoping perhaps then after these past 2 months I will have changed my view on my gf. Well, I am still in doubts about taking it long term and we've been together 7 months. I have to decide on her now.

Sometimes when we're out in public I'm not totally attracted to her, and it can be slightly embarrasing seeing all the other hotter girls around. I've tried to get over this, and I do see beauty in her, just not total 100% beauty.

Her nice nature wins me over, and we don't fight, so this makes it hard for me to rationalize that it will be hard to find a girl that accepts me for who I am and loves me unconditionally like this one does, as I'm not perfect. I've neglected the gym and my hobbies for the past 7 months to spend a lot of time with this girl, and that upsets me too.

Any more advice?
 

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I can't really tell you what you should do, but I think the moral of this story is that you shouldn't hook up with girls you aren't attracted to. Looks aren't everything, but to men, they are significant.
 
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