Should I start calling?

[fancy_pants]

Hi guys, I am by no means a DJ or a player, etc etc. I recently got out of a relationship and started hitting the field again. I went out a few times and I got 3 numbers from maybe 8-8.5s (no real dime pieces) at clubs/bars. Normally I prefer to meet women through friends or on campus, but thought I would give it a shot. However, I would usually text them the next day or the day after next with like "hey we met in sososo, hows it going? " , but 3 times I haven't gotten a response. On Sunday I met some chick , got her number, and texted her that last night around 10 and this afternoon, still no response- so this one is pretty much a no go. I am not going to resend her /call her because I certainly don't want to seem needy. I am not too hung up on it, but I am wondering what I should differently. I pretty much have no game other than the fact that I am a decent looking, in shape guy who dresses alright. The numbers that I get were done pretty quickly and I don't really know much about them other than their names. The way I just approach girls is pretty naturally- I see them looking at me, and they seem cute , i walk up to them say

'Hi whatsup" *smile
'im ...' shakes her hand
told her i thought she was kind of cute so I'd come by and say hi
ask some small talk **** like 'are u from this city?"
then make an excuse to leave and find a friend, but promise to come back
come back 10 minutes later, tell them I have to go, but let's go for a drink/coffee sometime. They agree, I ask them their number, punch it in , call it , hug, peck on the cheek, leave.

as you can see.. nothing extravagant. So what should I do differently? Build more of a rapport first? Touch more? Flirt more? Set a plan before I leave or tell them something like "So I will definately call you tomorrow, and we will take it from there" and Call them instead of text?

thnx guys

 

[Unbridled_Phoenix]

Since you're recently out of a LTR, approaching in this manner is great practice and great for your confidence. But if it's a girl you'd like to stir something up with, I advise building more rapport. You essentially set up a flake-prone situation when you just banter for a couple minutes and get a number. Why should she call you back? Why should she have any feelings if you just bs'd back and forth for a few?

The trick is to give them enough of you to spark interest and intrigue and leave her wanting more, without hanging around like a hungry dog. I achieve this goal by

1. Being tall dark and handsome
2. Making her feel my energy
3. Cultivating the sense of mystery (= not needy, not attached to outcome, letting her see *sometimes contradictory* pieces of the puzzle)

Sometimes they throw themselves at you and want to fvck that night. You're in control, but anything can happen

Oh, and NO TEXTING. Stop it. It's a stupid, impersonal way to communicate. When you're getting to know each other, the phone is your enemy, use it only to set up a meeting. Texting = your attention at her beck and call

 

[Allurre]

Dating and attracting women doesn't have to be an extravagant endeavor.

If what you're doing works, just stick to it.