Should I send this e-mail to her?

[skinnydart]

This is funny. You have one-itis for a girl who looked at you once. All the women out there you can approach, and you have to develope one-itis for one you've never even spoken to. Unless you approach her directly, you're going to be classified as stalker material. This one slipped through your hands, big deal. Go find another woman. They're plentiful.

Actually, we did speak. I ended up going to the front of the class to help her with the LCD for her presentation. She was all over me, hugging me and everything, introducing herself to me, shook my hand, asked me my name, etc. There was 80 people watching and all kinda snickering, so I didn't really know what to say. Afterwards, the prof came up to me and in so many words said "she's hot, so u going to ask her out?". She is kinda cute so I figured it would be fun to hang with someone for the next 5 weeks.

I won't be running into her, my office is the only place I go during the day now and I don't know where she works and I don't have her number (other than the one I can look up online).

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

If THAT's the last encounter you had with her, then you should remember you.

 

[NewMan]

True.

Why don't you email her - tell her that you are here over the break - and that you need to catch up with some class notes that you missed....

Meet up with her - get her notes and her number.

 

[skinnydart]

but the class is over, the class notes thing isn't going to fly

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

Just email her something like "hey what's up its so-and-so from so-and-so's class. I heard someone mention that you were staying here over break. I thought I was the only pathetic one doing that, ha, just kidding. Well it's pretty boring with everyone gone, give me a call if you want to hang out or something".

Keep it simple. What's the worst that happens? She's not interested. Big deal.

 

[skinnydart]

I keep forgetting ur a girl.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Yo skinnydart,

Why don't you start off the e-mail with a C+F line about helping her with the LCD thing? It will serve two purposes in getting her thinking about/remembering you and will help you build up some confidence in the e-mail by starting off with a confident message.

Tip: Avoid passive types of lines and words such as "would you...", "maybe...", etc.

These make you come off as insecure, weak, and lacking confidence. Be strong, be assertive, but don't go over board and just freak her out.

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

Originally posted by skinnydart
I keep forgetting ur a girl.

LOL. And? Does that make my email etiquette somehow inappropriate? I would respond to an email like that. I think it comes across kind of as less of a date-invitation as a "hey we're both stuck here we might as well be stuck together". Less needy.

 

[skinnydart]

Why don't you start off the e-mail with a C+F line about helping her with the LCD thing?

Could you give an example? I don't want to come across as bragging because I fixed her problem that one time, but something funny that's not to corny may be a good idea.

LOL. And? Does that make my email etiquette somehow inappropriate?

No, your cool, it's good to have input from the other side... btw, as a girl, how would you rate me in the pictures?, just curious.

 

[Desdinova]

Just state the obvious. Send her this:

"I was bored, so I thought it would be fun to stalk you. I already know about that teddy bear you sleep with at night and is usually soaked in drule in the morning"

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

No, your cool, it's good to have input from the other side... btw, as a girl, how would you rate me in the pictures?, just curious.

LOL. Ok just checking. I figured you'd remember I was a girl by the lovely pink sig (by the way I actually hate pink, I just do that so people remember I'm female... because god forbid any of the DJs take advice from a woman accidentally).

As for rating you, you look too young for my tastes but you ARE that young so I guess that's ok. I personally prefer a guy less on the skinny side, but that's just my personal taste, not an actual criticism.

 

[skinnydart]

Just state the obvious. Send her this:

I'm assuming by this ur saying there's no way for me to contact her wtihout coming across as stalking?

 

[skinnydart]

As for rating you, you look too young for my tastes but you ARE that young so I guess that's ok. I personally prefer a guy less on the skinny side, but that's just my personal taste, not an actual criticism.

And i just realized that this was not the post with the pictures. So how did you know what i looked like anyway?

Sorry, here are the pictures...

OLD PICTURE: (w/hitler haircut)
http://www.newbeginning.biz/skinnydart.jpg

TODAY:
http://www.newbeginning.biz/skinnydart1.jpg
http://www.newbeginning.biz/skinnydart2.jpg
http://www.newbeginning.biz/skinnydart3.jpg

 

[Climax]

hmm....

Originally posted by skinnydart
I'm assuming by this ur saying there's no way for me to contact her wtihout coming across as stalking?

Skinnydart: U need to understand, that no matter who the girl is, if you dont approach her in person, and she just gets this random sms or email from you, she WILL have her doughts, i'm not saying that she will think that u are a stalker, but she WILL have doughts (This is unless she has had her eye on you without YOU knowing it)

So again i will say that if i were you i would make a plan to approach her in person, but if u HAVE to, then send her an email, but make sure that u dont come out to being some creep, say that the reason for u sending her that email was maybe for something related to class or something of that matter, but also include other things that u WANT to say to her in the email Eg: say " so what u say we get a bite to eat while going over some work" etc.

Laterz...

 

[Desdinova]

I'm assuming by this ur saying there's no way for me to contact her wtihout coming across as stalking?

No, I'm saying to state the obvious and make it funny. You'll possibly make her laugh, and she won't even think of it as stalking. She'll be intrigued rather than frightened.

 

[skinnydart]

So again i will say that if i were you i would make a plan to approach her in person

Yeah, I don't know how else to say it, I will not be able to run into her in person, even during the semester when we're in the same buildings with 10k students, some I never see all.

It's impossible to find out anything more about her (like where she works). Basicly it's either send her an e-mail or not, and if I decide to, what exactly should I say?

 

[Climax]

what to do...

If u cant make a plan to even see her once, then how do you plan on doing anything with her at all? You are just wasting your time if thats the case. If u really wanted to, u could wait for her class to end and before she goes home u could spk to her, or before school starts u could approach her.

And if u still insist on writing her an email then make it soundthin on the lines of the following:

" Hey (her name)... (your name) here... i got your email address from (where u got it from) cause i was thinking about (here u need to say something that was spoken about in the class that u both are in) and thought that we could help eachother out with it, so what you say we work on it over luch sometime? Otherwise... whats up? how ur studies going? my are going good i guess, hard work though (and from here on you can just talk about normal everyday things that u might want to talk about)

Note: Try to keep the email SHORT! (Try keep it under half a page) You dont want her to think "what the F*ck? why is this guy that i bearly know sending me this HUGE email? yassie this guy has issues"... so ya... short and to the point is what u are looking at

Goodluck.

Laterz...

 

[Desdinova]

I've already given you a suggestion. Anything other than a purely humorous email is going to give off a stalker vibe which ever way you look at it.

"Hi, I'm that guy from class" = stalker
"Hey, why don't we hang out sometime" = stalker
"I got your email from the directory" = stalker
"I'm stalking you and I know you wear teletubby print pajamas to bed" = Huh? LOL!

This makes logical sense. First of all, stalkers don't admit they're stalking someone. Second, chances are she doesn't wear teletubby pajamas or drules all over her teddy bear (just on her pillow). Third, if you make her laugh, the thought of stalking won't even cross her mind. You'll be portraying yourself as funny and friendly instead of creepy.

 

[skinnydart]

If u cant make a plan to even see her once, then how do you plan on doing anything with her at all? You are just wasting your time if thats the case. If u really wanted to, u could wait for her class to end and before she goes home u could spk to her

AHHH, I don't know how else to explain it. The class is OVER, all class related stuff is in the past, in the trash, the school year is over, she's staying on campus to work, nothing else. And I would be able to see her if I e-mailed her first and we arranged a time to hang out one evening, but I can't ask her personally because I don't know where she is going to be.

 

[NewMan]

Alright this has gone on long enough.

When in doubt - make is simple.

So.....

Hey x, skinny D here. I heard that you were staying on campus during break, so I figured I'd hit you up to meet up for drinks Xday night. Let me know,

Skinny D.


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