"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'll be going to college this fall, and I found several girls on facebook that will also be freshman there. Anyway, I've been messaging back and forth with a girl that lives in my city, and I thought I had built some attraction...I asked for her #, and she says "why don't we just stick to facebook for now? We'll see how it goes!"

I originally thought to not even reply, and then contact her again in a week or so. But then, that might make me look like a prick or something. So, if I should reply, what should I reply with? Just a "ok, let's stick to facebook" and keep going? Something C&F? I'm not sure...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ARrocket said:
I'll be going to college this fall, and I found several girls on facebook that will also be freshman there. Anyway, I've been messaging back and forth with a girl that lives in my city, and I thought I had built some attraction...I asked for her #, and she says "why don't we just stick to facebook for now? We'll see how it goes!"

I originally thought to not even reply, and then contact her again in a week or so. But then, that might make me look like a prick or something. So, if I should reply, what should I reply with? Just a "ok, let's stick to facebook" and keep going? Something C&F? I'm not sure...
"Yes you are right, lets stick to facebook for now and see how it goes. I would never give my number out unless I knew someone through facebook for a while."

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DonJuan11 said:
"Yes you are right, lets stick to facebook for now and see how it goes. I would never give my number out unless I knew someone through facebook for a while."

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Would have done nicely, except that my # is displayed on my profile :D
 

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ARrocket said:
I'll be going to college this fall, and I found several girls on facebook that will also be freshman there. Anyway, I've been messaging back and forth with a girl that lives in my city, and I thought I had built some attraction...I asked for her #, and she says "why don't we just stick to facebook for now? We'll see how it goes!"

I originally thought to not even reply, and then contact her again in a week or so. But then, that might make me look like a prick or something. So, if I should reply, what should I reply with? Just a "ok, let's stick to facebook" and keep going? Something C&F? I'm not sure...
I did college before the whole Facebook craze, but I remember what freshman orientation was like: hookup city. I'm talking a 24 hour per day, 7 day per week meat market. One of the best weeks of my life. Nothing but a bunch of 18-year-old walking hormones trolling around trying to hook up with each other. What more can a young man ask for?

With that said, I think you're wasting your time trying to talk to these chicks on Facebook before you even get to campus. I just don't see how Facebook "pre-macking" will make a bit of difference in how much action you'll see when you actually get to campus. I can't picture these chicks cruising around the inevitable out-of-control parties looking for the guy they met on Facebook.

Enjoy your summer away from the computer and save your game for August. Not that you'll need much of it -- if you can't hook up orientation week, you've got some serious work to do.
 

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AKA FLEX said:
I did college before the whole Facebook craze, but I remember what freshman orientation was like: hookup city. I'm talking a 24 hour per day, 7 day per week meat market. One of the best weeks of my life. Nothing but a bunch of 18-year-old walking hormones trolling around trying to hook up with each other. What more can a young man ask for?

With that said, I think you're wasting your time trying to talk to these chicks on Facebook before you even get to campus. I just don't see how Facebook "pre-macking" will make a bit of difference in how much action you'll see when you actually get to campus. I can't picture these chicks cruising around the inevitable out-of-control parties looking for the guy they met on Facebook.

Enjoy your summer away from the computer and save your game for August. Not that you'll need much of it -- if you can't hook up orientation week, you've got some serious work to do.
I only really bothered with the girls that live in my city. And I wish I could be outdoors, but apparently we have monsoon season here now. sigh.

Maybe I'll just LJBF her (if she hasn't already done it to me :eek: ) and ensure that I know some people right from the start :)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I'm gonna stop browsing the people in my school's network on facebook before I get there. I probably will never run into a bunch of those girls since it is a big school. I'll just wait it out and see what comes my way when August get here. I will have a lot of new people to meet anyways.
 

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Yeah, I guess I'll just forget about it lol. Although she seems to be interested in sending me super long messages....oh well :)
 

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She's sending you long messages and you're listening? No interest in further contact? Get out dude. Just ignore her. When she asks why you're not talking to her just respond simply that you're busy with real life relationships. She'll come around and probably give you her number if she has any interest.
 

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There is a reason why she didn't give you her number. It's because, she does not really know you!!! For all she knows is your a rapist or stalker. Now, if you were in "person" she could see and judge you by how you act. Then, she would see your not a bad guy and maybe would give up her number.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ARrocket said:
Yeah, I guess I'll just forget about it lol. Although she seems to be interested in sending me super long messages....oh well :)
I keep getting super long e-mails from this chick I cold approached. I never write stories to her but I keep getting them in return. She wants to see a game w/me at her school, but the thing is, my school doesn't play hers and it's 5 hours away. I'll keep chatting via e-mail, but never more than a couple paragraphs on my part, but I get the feeling I won't need her once I start classes and find the selection to be superb at my own school.
 

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bmxcetera said:
I keep getting super long e-mails from this chick I cold approached. I never write stories to her but I keep getting them in return. She wants to see a game w/me at her school, but the thing is, my school doesn't play hers and it's 5 hours away. I'll keep chatting via e-mail, but never more than a couple paragraphs on my part, but I get the feeling I won't need her once I start classes and find the selection to be superb at my own school.
I think you come to the right conclusion at the end of your post.

NEVER get into a long-distance relationship in college unless you're 150% sure you're going to marry the girl and stay with her forever.

If you're a good guy and you stay faithful to your out-of-town girlfriend during college, you're basically taking a vow of celibacy during the four easiest years of your life to get laid. Not an easy or fun thing to do, not to mention the whole $4/gallon gas thing on the occasion that you DO make it to see your girlfriend.

You are right, there will be plenty of tail for you in college. If not, all I can say is you picked the wrong school. ;)
 
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