"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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should i pursue this yearbook message?

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"kyle-
wow thank you for being in my study or i would have died. Have an amazing summer and even better time at college, you're lucky to be getting out of here. you're such a cool person and its so easy to talk to you-you're an awesome guy-call me xxx xxx xxxx"

^^ that's the message ^^

it kinda seems like a friendzone...is it worth pursuing? i really never stepped up the kino with this girl because i never realized that i should seize the moment--shortly after she was changed out of my study. my gut says that i should call this girl when i want, but i just wanted to post her to make sure i'm not wasting my time.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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spider_007

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you can't have too many female friends. She just might have a friend who is a knock out that you'll want to hook up with......
 

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yea damn...:( i guess it could work as a friendship. just wanted to make sure the message was devoid of any sexual interest before i forgot about her
 

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no man sorry to burst your bubble but it looks as if you two are friends and thats it.just take her up on her number and see if you could change stuff.
 

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Originally posted by blinkwatt
no man sorry to burst your bubble but it looks as if you two are friends and thats it.just take her up on her number and see if you could change stuff.
yea, thanks. she's a cool girl so i could see bieng friends with her. i sorta doubted any sexual interest with the little amount of interest i showed.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I've got a couple like that, one that's possibly a prospect, the other 2 are just friends and that's all I'm really interested in with them anway. (they arn't hot, but could easily have hot friends I havn't met). I might call them to hang out, and I might not. I probably should, but I havn't yet.
 

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Yeah - it sounds like a "friend" to me. Especially where she says "it's so easy to talk to you".

I may as well get prepped for this type of thing b/c some girl I have a little interest in really wants to sign my yearbook on Friday, the last day of school (we haven't had a school day since last week). My money is that it will say something close to that. I also didn't write anything real "flirty" at the time because I had two minutes to write it and I had just sprained my ankle pretty badly.

Oh well...
 

UltimateScoundrel

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What the hell man, call her. Who knows? Maybe with this girl that **** means she digs you and wants to take a ride on little kiz.
 

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Originally posted by kiz
"kyle-
wow thank you for being in my study or i would have died. Have an amazing summer and even better time at college, you're lucky to be getting out of here. you're such a cool person and its so easy to talk to you-you're an awesome guy-call me xxx xxx xxxx"

^^ that's the message ^^

it kinda seems like a friendzone...is it worth pursuing? i really never stepped up the kino with this girl because i never realized that i should seize the moment--shortly after she was changed out of my study. my gut says that i should call this girl when i want, but i just wanted to post her to make sure i'm not wasting my time.
She wants it. Give her a call.
 

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Stop thinking you're in the friend zone.

You never really know till you go on a date.
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Re: Re: should i pursue this yearbook message?

Originally posted by Luscious
She wants it. Give her a call.
 

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call her, but dont act desparate. maybe in a friendly tone just ask her to go to the movies and hang out or sumthing like that. (cause sumtimes friends become more then friends):D
 

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Originally posted by kiz
"kyle-
wow thank you for being in my study or i would have died. Have an amazing summer and even better time at college, you're lucky to be getting out of here. you're such a cool person and its so easy to talk to you-you're an awesome guy-call me xxx xxx xxxx"

^^ that's the message ^^

it kinda seems like a friendzone...is it worth pursuing? i really never stepped up the kino with this girl because i never realized that i should seize the moment--shortly after she was changed out of my study. my gut says that i should call this girl when i want, but i just wanted to post her to make sure i'm not wasting my time.
How much more incentive you need?
 

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post the #, ill give it a call and wax the ass for you.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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