Should I pursue main plate or just keep spinning?

[linsanity94]

I am currently about to enter my last year of college.

My situation is that I think I may begin to fall for my main plate. The one issue is she does quite a bit of drugs (much more than me). Furthermore, she parties and drinks every weekend. I do too but not on her level since I'm more focused on school and getting into graduate school rn. If we were to get into a relationship down the road I don't see it lasting more than my last year of college due to the drugs/partying and she just doesn't seem like the girl you bring home to mom. I do see the fun side of dating tho since we would be able to go to raves and stuff together and just have fun my last year.

My question: should I allow her to move from a plate to a more LTR as time moves on or should I pursue my other plates more heavily in order to take up my time and just keep her as a casual thing.

I'm leaning towards just pursuing many other plates since I don't think she is the best influence on my life (drugs, doesn't care about school) and wouldn't be the worth the headache of dating exclusively for a year just for the sake of fun. I don't think its wise to allow myself to be in such a situation and fall in love with such a girl.

Let me know your guys' thoughts

 

[fastlife]

Definitely keep things casual with her. Much easier to maintain clarity & purpose before you enter into a relationship than it is to regain those in the midst of those emotions.

I've enjoyed the company of some really really awesome women just like her; but the qualities that make them a fun fling pretty much disqualifies them from serious investment. It's always a case of Man, she'd be such an awesome gf BUT...

It sucks, but an LTR is a lifestyle choice; it has to be a rational choice with 100% awareness of the potential consequences.

 

[Von]

If there is a BUT.... she ain't LTR material