I thought you were going to "end" it with this last email, but you didn't, you sought a reply and fell right into the trap as others have pointed out. Why does she deserve an email from you asking how she's doing? You shouldn't care, not in the slightest.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Should I proceed with this one?
- Thread starter Jeremymichael
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Jeremymichael
Senior Don Juan
Hi everyone,
Guess what I got another email, one month after my last one. She said she had moved to the one of the islands off the British coast. She asked me how work is going and to pass on her regards to my work colleagues. Finished with a x (kiss)
Should I bother to reply?
Many thanks,
Jez
Guess what I got another email, one month after my last one. She said she had moved to the one of the islands off the British coast. She asked me how work is going and to pass on her regards to my work colleagues. Finished with a x (kiss)
Should I bother to reply?
Many thanks,
Jez
jophil28
Master Don Juan
THis is just dragging on and on and going nowhere with this chick..Jeremymichael said:Hi everyone,
Guess what I got another email, one month after my last one. She said she had moved to the one of the islands off the British coast. She asked me how work is going and to pass on her regards to my work colleagues. Finished with a x (kiss)
Should I bother to reply?
Many thanks,
Jez
MY guess is that she has broken up with her last chump a while ago and is looking to you to fill the vacancy.
Now, do not be getting your condoms all warmed up just yet because she has very low sexual interest in you. YOu are being contacted by her because she has a gap in her current social structure and YOU are being drawn in to fill some of the vacant space....she also wants someone to chat with via email to have her feel still connected now that she lives on some obsure rock with a million sheep and some inbred folk with strange accents in the middle of whatever ocean..
Ultimately you are being recruited to play the role of her 'male girlfriend penpal '.
Jeremymichael
Senior Don Juan
I see what you are saying. Shall I reply?
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Here -Jeremymichael said:I see what you are saying. Shall I reply?
" Hey ___ hows it going out there with the sheep and all those cousins and uncle daddies. How do you tell them apart ?
Saturday night must be a blast... mutton roastoffs and irish dancing and sheep pat tossing ?.
What do you do for fun when the rest of the island is asleep ? Knitting by candlelight ?
DO you have enough electricity? You took a month to write me last time so I figure that it must have taken that long for the power batteries to charge up through all that rain and fog ...ha ha !
See ya.
Jeremy.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Jeremymichael
Senior Don Juan
hahaha...like it.
Apparently she is living in the channel islands - sounds pretty boring. I'm almost falling asleep thinking about this. Can you imagine what the local bar must be like?. Deadrie and Ken playing shove halfpenny near the fire and Fred drinking his pint of mild next to the pickled gerkins. Chip shop closing at 6pm and the local happy shopper selling a few mouldy cabbages?!. Finally walking in some sheep droppings as you head back home to the wooden hut
I think even that would get me emailing someone or anybody and droning on about very little.
Apparently she is living in the channel islands - sounds pretty boring. I'm almost falling asleep thinking about this. Can you imagine what the local bar must be like?. Deadrie and Ken playing shove halfpenny near the fire and Fred drinking his pint of mild next to the pickled gerkins. Chip shop closing at 6pm and the local happy shopper selling a few mouldy cabbages?!. Finally walking in some sheep droppings as you head back home to the wooden hut
I think even that would get me emailing someone or anybody and droning on about very little.
>> I'm almost falling asleep thinking about this. >>
Dwell on something else. She's not dwelling on you.
>> I see what you are saying. Shall I reply?>>
That seems to be an oxymoron.
Look, she lives far away, she writes intermittently just to stay in orbit, never showed true interest in you. She is what we call
"A Time Waster".
If you wish to be civil, reply once for every three of her emails.
Dwell on something else. She's not dwelling on you.
>> I see what you are saying. Shall I reply?>>
That seems to be an oxymoron.
Look, she lives far away, she writes intermittently just to stay in orbit, never showed true interest in you. She is what we call
"A Time Waster".
If you wish to be civil, reply once for every three of her emails.