"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So last night I was supposed to hang out with this chick Ive been seein for about 2 months.... So me her and some other people were all supposed to hang out... She told me she would meet up with us but that she had to drop by a friends house real quick...She then didnt contact me for 2 and a half hours only sending me a text...I ignored her she then called me at 1:30 am which I ignored as well....Well now today another plan we had set was to go out to a comedy club thing and she texted me asking how was last night, how was my day, and if were still on for tonight?



So guys what should I do? confront her? ignore her for a couple days? Still go but confront her on it?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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First thing to remember is to remain cool and not get angry. If you can do that it'll tell her that she can't control your happiness.


It wasn't exactly a date so you can't really confront her. You were already with other people. That doesn't excuse her but its what she might have been thinking.


What I would do is go and act like nothing happened. I think by ignoring her you have given her her punishment and she might be more considerate the next time.
 
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Can you go more into detail on what you mean? because arnt we supposed to be playing games like this so we dont come out as needy? No contacting to make them miss you?
 
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The very fact of the matter is that all you know regarding the situation deals primarily with the fact that this is definitely going to turn into a run-on sentence.

All joking aside, she said she had to meet up with a someone beforehand and it unfortunately didn't work out according to your plans. Maybe something personal took over and she couldn't control her time management. Yes, she should have let you known this earlier during the night instead of waiting so long but the truth is.....she didn't.

If this is the first time something like this has happened then let it slide. Only bring it to her attention when it starts to become a pattern.

Let us know your next move.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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