Hi guys. Started texting a girl month after her breakup. Seen her for 2 weeks done interesting stuff and had sex 8 times. Messed it all up by arguing and saying some rude stuff. Hardly replys to texts or snapchat anymore. Went NO CONTACT for a few days and she was drinking saturday night and hit me up with the ‘i want to shag you now’ message whilst i was in work. I replied in morning exchanged few texts but shes gone cold again. Should i just delete her number?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Should i no contact forever?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
TheMonkeyKing
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She broke up with someone else + meeting you + lots of sex very quickly = she just wants sex and you're thinking too much in to it.
The last thing she wants is serious bullsh!t so soon after she's broken up with someone else.
Let this be a lesson in premature emotional investment. Half the battle with women is situational awareness; and you've clearly demonstrated to her that you don't understand that. Her drunk text tells you everything you (and she) need at the moment - sex. And yes, you're probably making it worse by continuing to text.
'No contact forever' is a bit extreme. Just leave her alone for a while. If she's going to come back, she will, in her own sweet time. If/when she does, you initiate meeting up. And stop fcking around on text and snapsh!t; it's really not helping your cause, especially in this situation.
The last thing she wants is serious bullsh!t so soon after she's broken up with someone else.
Let this be a lesson in premature emotional investment. Half the battle with women is situational awareness; and you've clearly demonstrated to her that you don't understand that. Her drunk text tells you everything you (and she) need at the moment - sex. And yes, you're probably making it worse by continuing to text.
'No contact forever' is a bit extreme. Just leave her alone for a while. If she's going to come back, she will, in her own sweet time. If/when she does, you initiate meeting up. And stop fcking around on text and snapsh!t; it's really not helping your cause, especially in this situation.
Monkey King that does make sense. I feel like i missed the opportunity to repair some damage by accepting her sex request but i didnt see her message for 9 hours after. In the morning she said she was just horny after a drink we exchanged a few texts after that but she went cold and off the map again. Question is why wont she have sex sober now like before in those 2 weeks? Why has it taken her to ask when drunk?
soulforge
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She was drunk... She was horny and needed a good hard banging!
Next day she was sober and came to her senses, and realised it was a mistake to text you, then proceeded to fuk you off again.
Do not contact her anymore, unless she makes it very CLEAR she wants to meet for sex!
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
marmel75
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Please stop with this alpha crap...you cannot convince yourself or train yourself into being alpha in that manner. It would be like trying to teach a person to run as fast as Usain Bolt. Could you get them to run faster with some training? Yeah probably you could. Could you turn them into Usain Bolt? Fvck no.
Too many people think they can just practice running fast and become Usain Bolt. Just not gonna happen sorry for the reality check.
Becoming "alpha" is probably the last thing you need to worry about when you are not doing well with women. Its pretty much irrelevant.
Yes.
mrgoodstuff
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He doesn't have to be usain bolt though. He's a 12.0 second 100m guy with zero training and getting to 11.0 in two years will be sufficient for what he's doing. This is what gaining the alpha mindset is about.
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soulforge
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Your an option to her Bruv!
Break Glass Incase Of Emergency.. In this instance it was when she was drunk and horny, and it became an emergency situation for her, so she texted you.
She sobered up and realised what the fuk? And came back to her senses.
Your an option.. What should you do? Spin Plates Bruv.. Have multiple woman available to you.. One drops off? So what, just replace and keep fuking!
Have lots of options.. STOP being a fukin option!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Recieved guys. I have been reading the DJ Bible and feel like im in the matrix and ****s starting to make sense. Can i ask a question. I get a fair few Tinder matches and atm iv managed to get them to text me/meet up instead. Most of them are better looking than this girl i made the post about. Can any of you explain why i tend to always wonder what she is doing how she is and just the urge to speak to her even though i know the other girls are more beautiful. I like learning why things happen psychologically any of you share thoughts?
mrgoodstuff
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Its cause your not fvcking enough. When your fvcking enough it won't be a top thought.