"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Should I next this girl? Text convo inside

Kal0051

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K, so going out this fri night with a bunch of people to hit the club scene. In my city most of the clubs are located close together (lets call it the club district for now). I was thinking that it be cool to get 1 or 2 girls to come out with me. So I text this girl I went out a couple times with (maybe make something happen with her), and she never got back to me (I had the suspicion that she wasn't interested, so whatever, she's gone). Started thinking about who I could invite. Thought of this girl I met through my work, got her number a couple weeks ago so I could chill with her. I also knew that she had fri nights off. So I send her this text (yes I texted her, it was 11pm):

Me: So I'm heading to the clubs on fri with some people. Come hang out.
Girl: I hate it in that part of town lol i dont go there
Me: Lol, why not? FYI it isn't that great around where you live (she only goes out near her place)
Girl: lol its expensive and far and to busy
Me: Fine, then your hagning out with me another night this week :p
Girl: Im working and me and my roommate are havin a movie night tuesday we can see sometime maybe one day
Me: k, have fun tues

I doubt she's even remotely interested. Is it even worth continuing to talk to her for practice?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ice882

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no. because nothing will work, so even good stuff will slide off like teflon.
 

katatonia

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Kal0051 said:
Is it even worth continuing to talk to her for practice?
Probably not.

You'd need some tight as hell game to pull this one back. Better off going no contact and seeing if she gets in touch with you.
 

Kal0051

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katatonia said:
You'd need some tight as hell game to pull this one back. Better off going no contact and seeing if she gets in touch with you.
she won't. I do see her once in a while, but I doubt she'll bring up us hanging out. K, back to square one, zero girls. Might as well delete her number as well.
 

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Kal0051 said:
So I text this girl I went out a couple times with (maybe make something happen with her), and she never got back to me (I had the suspicion that she wasn't interested, so whatever, she's gone).
Why do you even bothered with her ? In my experience the interested girls will walk the extra mile - and the rest is irrelevant except for experimenting with lost self-respect and lost time.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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