"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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so talking with this girl from an online site who's profile I'm into.


Our conversation went back and forth about 5 times each nothing too important. exchanged pictures. Probably about 3-4 days in between responses. She seemed into it.
Then I asked if I can call / skype sometime - pretty direct in my request though. Didn't get a response for 3 days. Then I said.... what are you doing on here anyway. I mean your really cute. If I was at ___ university I'd definately date you lol
She writes back right away
Hey! Im on here to meet people I guess. I'm pretty chill about the whole thong though. I just don't have the time to be super fast about anything these days haha. I'm in Mexico rift now with my fam. Big holiday plans?

How would you respond? I'm thinking just next as she seems really non committed saying shes chill about the whole thing.
What do you think? Wwhat would you do?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Find out when she's getting back from Mexico. When she does get back get her # and set up a date a few days later. If she's interested she will accept. If she isn't she won't. You can move on or try again at a later date.
 
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Why are you even thinking about "non committed" after 5 email exchanges?
If she seems interesting, keep talking to her.. What's the harm? especially in just online interactions. Don't constantly hoard her with messages though. Pull her in and push her away!

The one thing that's a little unclear is when she says "I don't have time to be super fast about anything these days".. Did you leave something out of the convo? Because I'm interepreting this as either...

a.) She thinks that you're seeking an exclusive partner (hence why I asked if you left anything out of the convo)..
b.) She's giving you qualification.. She is letting you know why she did not reply so quickly. So she might dig you if you keep going.

In the case of B, definitely keep going. In the case of A.. Just stop for a while and let her initiate communication.

Because even if you say to her "Oh no it's not like that" (In the case of option A).. Then it is like that. You're demonstrating to her you want her attention by giving her qualification on what you want.

For example...

(AFC looks at hot girls profile, pictures future dates and eventually marrying her)
Girl: Hey I don't have time to be super fast with anything right now. (THINKING: This guy seems really nice, I don't want to lead him on and hurt his feelings)
AFC: Well I mean it's not like that. I just wanna hangout you know? (THINKING: Damn that sucks! Maybe if I take her out I can change her mind!)
Girl: Oh okay, well you wanna go shopping? (THINKING: I'll be friends with him since he's so nice.. I could get along with him greatly, and that way I don't have to hurt his feelings if we ever broke up! Plus he's not going to make a move in a mall!)

See what I mean?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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