"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Should I live at home or rent a place for postgrad study?

viking22

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Im going to law school: well, the UK version-so it is not a big university, just a class of around 300 a year. My parents are paying the fees and the second year I could get sponsorship from a firm and Ill be working part time doing some private tuition earning around $1000 a month.

Anyway Im considering whether to live at home or rent a place.

Living at home seems the obvious option. I live in London which is a really expensive city and with no expenses at home Id be able to go out a fair bit in London.

But Im worried Ill miss out a lot. Because I live around an hour out of London (by train) it makes going out all the time quite exhausting especially as often Ill finish lectures around 2pm and have a huge gap until evening and it would not be worth my while going home because then id have to leave immediately to go out again. Also I wouldn't be comfortable bringing girls home and while there are girls who'd have their own place its a bit of a drag.

I can take out quite a generous loan at a reasonable rate which would allow me to afford to rent a place. But Im kinda cautious about going into debt especially when the rent money is going down the drain and there is no guarantee ill get a job immediately after I graduate.

Any thoughts?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Zaraza

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Is your plan to go to school or to party? Do you feel less fulfilled to live with parents?

I would say live with parents if you can. Get your degree, then get payed and move out.

how long will you have to live with parents?
 

Unbridled_Phoenix

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Tougher now, easier later.

Stay with the rents.
 

WaterTiger

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Why pay the whole bill yourself? Can you get some like-minded, post grad roommates to share a place with and split the costs?
 

picard

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how much can you afford rent?

if you don't have money, you should stay at home with parents. There is no shame about it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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