"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Been on three dates with a coworker.

the good:
- texted me back after every date saying she had fun
- enjoyable person to be around
- tells her family details about the dates
- escalation doesn't feel forced

the bad:
- had to reschedule the last date twice (dinner at my place)
- doesn't initiate any type of texting other than saying she had fun after dates

additional details:
- Night after the third date we were at party with coworkers (non-alcohol, watched olympics). She didn't say hi and moved away after I tried to sit next to her
- coworkers know we have been on dates
- were both in college
- didn't have time to buy condoms for the third date due to rescheduling but had heavy making out, groping, cloths off etc...

I think I'm doing to much work and normally if the girl has high interest she'll text me. It's been four days since we lost saw each other. Should I let her come to me, re initiate, or next?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Next! you sat beside her and she moved off? Thats just downright insulting!
did she say anything about why she moved? Move on bro, if she does call, answer, see what happens. dating coworkers is always an iffy subject, it can make the work environment difficult. Put her in your friendzone (say something along the lines of ' i didnt really feel chemistry, but id like to be friends') play nice, but never forget women talk to each other this chick isnt worth your time but it may pay to play nice.
 
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Yeah, agree with Purefilth.

If I have to instigate all communications....I give up after 3 dates.
Unfortunately the ones that usually text me are the ones I'm not interested in

Life's a beach eh?

Also....after advice from this site, I tend to avoid getting involved with colleagues.....Unless i can manage to get them sacked :-D
 
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