"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Should I know who I'm talking to?

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Okay, so there's this girl that I use to go to high school with that I haven't spoken to in like a year. Now the other day she signs on AIM suddenly and I say "hi" and make up some excuse that it was nice saying hi but that I can't talk online for much because it's not my computer. It worked, she gave me her number and told me to give her a call. So I waited a month now. So I'm thinking about giving her a call, I'm pretty sure she gave me a house number, so is it a good idea to identify her right away when she (if she) picks up or should I act like I don't know who I'm talking to and ask for her anyway? I was in this situation two years ago and I identified her right away and the other girl ALWAYS kept asking who I was every time I called so it put me in the dog house in a way. So I'm just wondering about that and if it was a good idea to wait the length in time I waited.

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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you waited a MONTH and your THINKING of giver her a call?! You should have simply waited like 4-5 days....30 days after getting a number is a bit too long.
 
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yeah

Yeah, I guess it was a bit too long. But I thought the longer the better? Haha I'm new here so I guess I over loaded on the "tips" section. I guess I did **** up there, if waiting longer isn't the answer. So any advice on the call now?
 
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