"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Should I just wait for a while?

ASD :)

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Well, there is this 15-year-old HB9 I would really like to seduce. She goes to my school, two grades below me. We started communicating online. Soon we decided to meet - we went for a walk. I left a really bad impression of myself to her, though. I was completely exhausted, wanted to sleep and talked some bullsh*t. There was some minor kino and hugging, though. We kind of agreed she would come to my place some day, she wanted to see my dog and so on. I am quite sure the situation is not hopeless. It was about a month ago, when we met. I see her about every second day at school, but we only like smile and say "Hi!", nothing more.
We had not talked for like 3 weeks (not even online.. only like "good night" on IM a few times). Last week I asked her to come ice-skating with me. Well, she gave me some hope, but she really (I know it for a fact that she did) had some other plans made, so she did not come. After that I thought I would "NEXT!" her, but as I see every other day in shcool how beautiful she is, I decided to give her another chance, lol.
Anyway, the question is - should I wait for a while and then invite her to my place or do it already this weekend (tomorrow)? What do you think? Of course I kind of f*ucked up a lot with the image I left of myself the day we met, but I feel there still definitely is a chance. We talked a lot more before the walk, though. So that worries me. But still, I do not have anything to lose, have I?
So when should I call her? My plan is to have her play with my dog a bit and then go upstairs to my room, watch some movie ("Love Actually" ?:p), do some kino and see what happens. I would drive her home later and we might go out for a dinner on the way or whatever. But still - when should I call her and HOW should I do that? What should I tell her?

Thanks!
ASD :)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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pecoso

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If the movie thing works out, you might not get to eat that night. ;)

IMO, I don't think asking her to your house (considering your "situation") is that great an idea. I'd start off going somewhere fun that "couples" go to (mall, fast food, pool hall) and work from there.
 

ASD :)

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Thank you for the reply. Could you please explain, though, why do you think inviting her to my house would not be a good idea?
 

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Originally posted by ASD :)
Thank you for the reply. Could you please explain, though, why do you think inviting her to my house would not be a good idea?
First off, her age. Second, you are little more than an aquintance to her. I know you might not wanna answer this, but what state/region ofthe states you from?
 
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