I ended up meeting a girl at a club the other night (I'd say she's about a 6 or 7, not insanely hot but not bad). At the end of the night she asked me what I was doing on the weekend. I have a party I'm going to and I told her that and invited her. We exchanged numbers (well, she used my phone to call hers) and when I left she told me to text her. The only thing is that I forgot that one of my friends is supposed to introduce me to this one really hot girl at the party. I'm not sure whether or not to invite the girl from the other night now. What do you guys think?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Should I invite this girl to this party
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The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
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You know Kal, it really strikes me that you have to come here and ask us about what to do.
What do you think is best? I think you already know.
What do you think is best? I think you already know.
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It's usually best to remain a free agent at a party rather than have to babysit a girl you invited because she doesn't know anyone else there besides you.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Yeah I'm going to agree with TheBucketOfTruth on this one. I've brought girls to parties before and then thought, damn, plenty of hotter girls here. If you want to hang out with this girl in particular in a party atmosphere, take her out to a bar or something.TheBucketOfTruth said: