"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Should I invite this girl to this party

Kal0051

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I ended up meeting a girl at a club the other night (I'd say she's about a 6 or 7, not insanely hot but not bad). At the end of the night she asked me what I was doing on the weekend. I have a party I'm going to and I told her that and invited her. We exchanged numbers (well, she used my phone to call hers) and when I left she told me to text her. The only thing is that I forgot that one of my friends is supposed to introduce me to this one really hot girl at the party. I'm not sure whether or not to invite the girl from the other night now. What do you guys think?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Julian

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dont bring sand to the beach
 
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You know Kal, it really strikes me that you have to come here and ask us about what to do.

What do you think is best? I think you already know. ;)
 

TheBucketOfTruth

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It's usually best to remain a free agent at a party rather than have to babysit a girl you invited because she doesn't know anyone else there besides you.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Evzone

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TheBucketOfTruth said:
It's usually best to remain a free agent at a party rather than have to babysit a girl you invited because she doesn't know anyone else there besides you.
Yeah I'm going to agree with TheBucketOfTruth on this one. I've brought girls to parties before and then thought, damn, plenty of hotter girls here. If you want to hang out with this girl in particular in a party atmosphere, take her out to a bar or something.
 

trv26

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Also, why makes life difficult for yourself by taking her a place where there's a chance she's going to get hit on by other guys?
 
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