"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Should I invite this girl to my place or go out somewhere

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Don Juan
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So Long story short, I met these 4 girls randomly, got to know there names and chatted a bit but nothing came out of it. A week later I see 2 of the girls and they are drunk and excited and tell me one of the other girls I met with them(HB7) thought I was really hot and said she was flirting with me but I must not have noticed. Anyways they force me to take her number. Then for the next week or so we texted each other a few times and we were only open on opposite nights. Then I called her and she was like "Oh how come you didn't respond to my texts the last couple of days(It had been like 4 days since the last text). Anways we chit-chatted and concluded that her phone was messed up or something, but she was really bummed out because she thought I had been ignoring her.

So after that we meet up to have some drinks at a local bar, but we were both with groups of exclusive friends, and she could only stay for 30 minutes becasue of something the next morning but said she wanted to meet up again and wanted me to call her, and she apologized that she had been busy before when I initially texted her the first few times.

So now what do I do? Should I invite her to a sober date, something like dinner and some kind of activitiy. Or should I do something like invite her out for drinks again. Or should I Just call her up and say hey lets cook or order dinner at my house and watch a movie and try to escalate or what.

Since her drunk friends gave her level of interest away as very high when they gave me her number, I feel like I could escalate fairly easily. However she might put of the anti-slut defense, since in meeting her I realized we have a few mutual friends.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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