"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Should I IM her?

Viper

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Well, here's the situation, I found the MySpace of this hot girl from school named Marissa, who's MySpace just happens to contain her AIM address and I want to know, do you guys think I should IM her? We go to the same school, but she has no idea who I am and I don't want to seem like a stalker, by IMing her without introducing her to myself; the fact that my AIM is "XIXIoriYagamaXIX", doesn't help either.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DJ4Real

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Get to know her first...meet her in person and get her AIM.
 

Citre

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Do not IM her if you do not know her and she has no clue who you are.
 

oakraiderz2

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Whats your myspace?? I wanna see what you look like.
 

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Viper, judging from your name, you must watch anime.

Whatever you do don't IM her without meeting her in person first, it is creepy if you IM her first.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The Real Ice Man

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If you ever want to have a chance with this girl, don't IM her EVER. I'm not kidding. AIM=anti-challenge
 

adit

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For all DJs..

AIM-An Idiotic Monstrosity
MSN-Man's Stupidity Net

These things will ruin your chances,believe me.

For the threadstarter,no you shouldn't talk to her on IM.Why don't you just meet her in person,man?If you IM her she'll just think of you as some nerd who stumbles upon profiles and tries to hit girls.There would be a million mistakes made if you IM her before meeting her in person and getting acquainted.Also,she may give you a bad name with her girl-friends..'Hey this guy he talked to me on IM,but he doesnt know me.Weird guy!'

I know,talking to her on IM would make things seem easy for you..But you'll only be heading for one place from there on..Nowhere!

So,just talk to her in person if you wanna start off something with her.Thats much,much better.
 

AB500

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Hmm I've realized that all the girls that I have been really successful with don't have AIM. Coincidence? No. From now on I use AIM only for scheduling with my mates, no more giving out my screen name.
 

six-foot AZN '05

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Never treat IM as your number. Not the same. 'Course you could use the IM as a backup if a girl wont leave you alone... "heres my AIM, now dont IM me" and make sure she cant get your number from someone else.
 
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