"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Should I IM her?

Viper

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Well, here's the situation, I found the MySpace of this hot girl from school named Marissa, who's MySpace just happens to contain her AIM address and I want to know, do you guys think I should IM her? We go to the same school, but she has no idea who I am and I don't want to seem like a stalker, by IMing her without introducing her to myself; the fact that my AIM is "XIXIoriYagamaXIX", doesn't help either.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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DJ4Real

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Get to know her first...meet her in person and get her AIM.
 

Citre

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Do not IM her if you do not know her and she has no clue who you are.
 

oakraiderz2

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Whats your myspace?? I wanna see what you look like.
 

banzai07

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Viper, judging from your name, you must watch anime.

Whatever you do don't IM her without meeting her in person first, it is creepy if you IM her first.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The Real Ice Man

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If you ever want to have a chance with this girl, don't IM her EVER. I'm not kidding. AIM=anti-challenge
 

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For all DJs..

AIM-An Idiotic Monstrosity
MSN-Man's Stupidity Net

These things will ruin your chances,believe me.

For the threadstarter,no you shouldn't talk to her on IM.Why don't you just meet her in person,man?If you IM her she'll just think of you as some nerd who stumbles upon profiles and tries to hit girls.There would be a million mistakes made if you IM her before meeting her in person and getting acquainted.Also,she may give you a bad name with her girl-friends..'Hey this guy he talked to me on IM,but he doesnt know me.Weird guy!'

I know,talking to her on IM would make things seem easy for you..But you'll only be heading for one place from there on..Nowhere!

So,just talk to her in person if you wanna start off something with her.Thats much,much better.
 

AB500

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Hmm I've realized that all the girls that I have been really successful with don't have AIM. Coincidence? No. From now on I use AIM only for scheduling with my mates, no more giving out my screen name.
 

six-foot AZN '05

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Never treat IM as your number. Not the same. 'Course you could use the IM as a backup if a girl wont leave you alone... "heres my AIM, now dont IM me" and make sure she cant get your number from someone else.
 
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