Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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skybound

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freefallin2147: So what do you do

B00: I am a supervisor in a business office for a private practice medical group

LiLB00: lol...mouthful

freefallin2147: lol was just about to say that

freefallin2147: so you stand around all day and yell at people!
freefallin2147: i knew you were mean
LiLB00: AWWW
LiLB00: y is that???

freefallin2147: because you little girls are usally the ones with all the attitude lol

LiLB00: pocos per locos

freefallin2147: Ive been to sandys in temple a few times to play pool, Have you been there

LiLB00: I just heard that on the boxing match I watched on Saturday...when Diaz went down

LiLB00: YES....the guy I dated went there....
LiLB00: ya probably know him

freefallin2147: its possible but you were saying about boxing?

LiLB00: the boxing match on Saturday....Pac...I can't spell it and Diaz...they were saying "pocos per locos" - small but crazu

LiLB00: *crazy
LiLB00: I LOVE boxing
LiLB00: it was HBO

freefallin2147: oh ok

LiLB00: Zab Judah is up in two weeks
LiLB00: pay per view

freefallin2147: ya i like boxing as well not into that UFC fighting everyone else is so crazy about

LiLB00: I like that too
freefallin2147: You come to killeen much?

LiLB00: sometimes....just to go to clubs when I do...if I go to bar it's DuckTavern
LiLB00: haven't been in awhile
LiLB00: got booted from Starlite last friday...the guys we were with got stupid

freefallin2147: Ya that club is strict on people acting a fool
freefallin2147: usally a younger crowd in there i dont go much
freefallin2147: My name is mike and yours'

LiLB00: Marisa...and yeah, I HATE to go there...I wanted to go to Wild Country

LiLB00: but the girls'whose bday it was wanted to go to that STUPID place

LiLB00: and yes there are kIDS
LiLB00: KIDS
LiLB00: how old are you???

freefallin2147: i turned 28 in may

LiLB00: lol...well, I am 32 and getting hit on by a 19 yr old who can't buy you a beer is SAD

freefallin2147: haha would you like a DR.pepper baby? Then maybe after we can kick it at my parents house

LiLB00: NOT funny
freefallin2147: Well Marisa i have to run.. Was fun talking with you
LiLB00: you too...take it easy
*** LiLB00's IC window is closed
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I hate online game....but if you must....

The girl gave you SEVERAL opportunities to invite her out to hang. She mentioned the ppv fight, the bar she wants to go to, etc...you could quite possibly have set something up and then extracted her phone number.

But don't feel too bad, b/c it's the internet, and girls tend to use that for AW-ing anyway.
 

broken dreams

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Hey would nt it be better to tell her "hey my PC is going to reboot or restart or whatever.
And get here over your house and close her...for real.
 
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Jeffst1980 said:
I hate online game....but if you must....

The girl gave you SEVERAL opportunities to invite her out to hang. She mentioned the ppv fight, the bar she wants to go to, etc...you could quite possibly have set something up and then extracted her phone number.

But don't feel too bad, b/c it's the internet, and girls tend to use that for AW-ing anyway.
I was aware of the slots she gave me to try and close but i just met her today. Maybe im being a AFC but i duno didnt want to come off desprate. Gona make my move friday
 

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I cringe when I read these things...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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