should I go?

[pete101]

Met this HB last week, went ok but no real IOIs we get on but I don't think she's into me.

I arranged to meet her last night just to test the water but she countered with she's busy and didn't offer another time. I countered with meeting up tonight since I was busy tomorrow and thursday.

She didn't reply. Didn't hear anything from her till now and she agreed but to only meet up for an hour cos she's busier now than last week..

My DJ in me tells me that I'm wasting my time but the AFC in me thinks I should at least try then quit. Should I go?

She has very attractive female friends so I would have thought being friends with her might help my case in future via introductions but if she knows I'm into her then I guess that would hinder any progress with her friends..?

 

[New2Town]

Unless you have something better to do with your hour than see her, go. There's no shame in trying to cultivate attraction.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Don't worry, she will cancel for tonight, and will be even busier next week than this week; so you're better off canceling first.

 

[DonGorgon]

Don't worry, she will cancel for tonight, and will be even busier next week than this week; so you're better off canceling first.

uh so true^^^

 

[pete101]

actually she only responded like half an hour ago and i'm suppose to see her in 3 hours.. so i doubt she'd cancel cos if she were then i think she would have done so in the message she sent me just now.

i don't really have anything better to do.. i guess i could put it down to practise.. if i can't get her i'd like a shot at her friends.. do i need to make a decision whether to go for it with her tonight OR LJBF myself and try to get introductions with her attractive friends?

not really sure how to play it.

 

[DonGorgon]

^^ i think you should cancel on her to take some power back...

 

[pete101]

that is a smart move actually.. should have thought of that.. it would make me seem more unavailable in that she can't contact me a few hours before we're suppose to meet to make arrangements and should have said yes yesterday.

she's a student so has a lot of work to do but still i take your point, me agreeing to meet her even though i put it out there yesterday to meet tonight i should still have made other plans or pretended to as to not seem so available.

it's too late now, wish i saw your msg before i agreed, woulda done that instead.

any tips on how to play it tonight?

 

[DonGorgon]

^^^You should still cancel now... ie. flake out on her and give a BS excuse just like women do to us... She will be so confused at how you could have the nerve to do that and she will be interested also...

 

[pete101]

man that's actually really good..

i guess the AFC in me is telling me that i could give it a shot and see if c+f, kino, neg-hits etc would work..

assuming i do go (which i suspect) do you think these things are pointless if her interest level isn't really that high?

 

[Gangster Of Love]

LoL. Listen to Don Gordon. He is that voice of reason inside of you. It is the voices speaking to you at this moment.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

"Listen, I just realized, I don't even think I have an hour to spare. Might be more like 25-30 minutes, I don't think its worth the trouble. Call me, perhaps we can do it some other time."

 

[pete101]

i see.. i guess the idea is to make it clear that i am worth more than 1 hour of her time.. if i send what you wrote above is the idea that it should increase her interest level if there was any in the first place?

i'm such an AFC.. i feel like i need to learn the hard way because something inside of me thinks i can get her tonight without needing to cancel.

are you saying that if i show up the chances of me succeeding are slim to nothing because i am giving in my power?

 

[DonGorgon]

She is only giving you an hour of her time cause that is what she thinks you are worth at this point ,,, you must not accept that.... She does not think that she wants to be around you for more than an hour but if you have the skill to make her change her mind then go for it... but me!? I would flake on her..

 

[Gangster Of Love]

i see.. i guess the idea is to make it clear that i am worth more than 1 hour of her time.. if i send what you wrote above is the idea that it should increase her interest level if there was any in the first place?

i'm such an AFC.. i feel like i need to learn the hard way because something inside of me thinks i can get her tonight without needing to cancel.

are you saying that if i show up the chances of me succeeding are slim to nothing because i am giving in my power?

Please tell me, what exactly is your plan? What will you do/say to "get her" tonight?

It is possible, but unlikely. The most likely scenario is for something to all of a sudden "come up" and she really has to cancel on you at the last minute.

Please do keep us posted. I kinda want to see you go through it, so you can give us a full report. All the best.

 

[pete101]

well i think the AFC in me is telling me that she's at least remotely interested on some level hence why she's agreed to meet up.. BUT i do know she's very busy with studying lots of essays to hand in this week and it seems everyone wants a piece of her i.e. her friends.

she genuinely seems too nice of a girl and i think really all it is she can't say no to me cos she'll feel bad but like you say she probably thinks 'well i'll see him but only for an hour cos i have a lot of work to do etc etc'

i presume that's the likeliest scenario huh?

i dont know i feel like within 1 hour i should be able to increase her interest level exponentially or at least leave it with her more interested than she was last week.. or i'm just kidding myself maybe i don't know.

doubt she'll cancel on me last min.. she doesn't seem like the type of girl but i would be surprised if she does. (other girls yes but not her)

bottom line is i got nothing else better to do tonight and i feel i need the practise.

 

[pete101]

i think you guys are definitely right but i just dont seem to be strong willed enough in myself to not turn up.. i guess it's my own fault for not having more options.

is flaking on her supposedly suppose to increase her interest level in me (or find out if i'm really wasting my time?) ?

 

[Gangster Of Love]

So you've never really met for a day two meeting? Yes, one hour would be enough to create some interest.

Your problem here is that you already are already falling for the "She's not like other girls, she's different" trap.

You should go, check things out, decide wether to run game on her, or see if she can be your friend, and get you access to her hot friends. Decide quick, as 1 hour is not too much time for everything you might have in mind.

 

[pete101]

not really the trap of she's not like other girls.. more so i've dated so many girls over the past year that this one seems remotely different but i think more so because she'll feel bad for saying no rather than actually wanting to see me..

yeah one hour isn't enough.. i'm kinda hoping that if it goes well she'll want to stay around for longer than an hour.. that's really what i'm banking on because last week she had to go see a friend after she met me so was committed.. this time round i don't think that is the case (or it might be) we'll see.

but if i cancel on her it's basically saying 'im worth more than one hour of your time' as i feel like her saying she can only meet for one hour is cos she genuinely busy and has essays to hand in but feels bad for saying no and i guess is trying to squeeze me into her schedule?

i see what you're saying that i shouldn't need to be squeezed into a schedule and that she should want to spend time with me rather than her feeling guilty for saying no..

 

[pete101]

p.s. would you suggest heavy kino immediately since i don't have much time and guage how open she is to it?

stupidly i feel like because we don't know each other that well she needs more time to get to know me etc.. but i think this disobeys sosuave rules and all girls no immediately after 2 meetings whether it's a go or not.

i dont really know what sort of game to run in a time span of an hour.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

No heavy kino immediately. It will make you come off as creepy. You don't seem to be at a level where you can pull that kind of stuff congruently.

Be funny, be interesting.

Ask her some good/interesting questions, and let her elaborate on her answers. Qualify her.

Get a feel of how it is going. If she's into you, keep it up. If it is going stale, you might want to be the one who cuts it short, and ended on a positive note, as you can always keep her as a friend (to get access to her hottie friends later on).