"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Should i go for it?

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Alright, so theres a girl, maybe a hb 7 or 8. I've only seen her once, and she is very attracted to me. We've been texting each other a little bit for a couple of weeks now, and she is hinting toward me asking her out. The thing is, i don't really feel like going out or anything with her. I mean, she's cute and everything, but i dunno if i really want to date her or not. What do you guys think, should i go for it?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It's not that i'm scared she's going to say no. I know she'd say yes, cuz she obviously has a crush on me. The thing is whether or not I want to go out on a date with her. I'm actually kind of on the fence here
 

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I dunno, i think it's because i'm really just not all that into her, because whenever i try and flirt with her (with texting) she always just takes it seriously.... I dunno, but i think that's what puts me on the fence. Either i'm not all that funny/good at flirting, or she just has no sense of humor, and i doubt it's me
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Date her, but don't go out with her. There's a huge difference. I'm dating 5+ girls right now, but I don't have a "girlfriend". Go on dates, do sh!t with her, maybe get your d!ck wet a little and have fun. If she wants to be exclusive she will let you know. Just be straight up with her when she asks. "I'm not really looking for a relationship right now, but I enjoy your company and hanging out with you. We should do this more often.." etc.. I have one girl who literally calls herself my "number one ho" because she knows she will never be my girlfriend, but she knows I still love hanging out and making out. :]
 

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Major props to OP for thinking about what HE wants, not what she wants.
 
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