"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Should i go for it?

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Alright, so theres a girl, maybe a hb 7 or 8. I've only seen her once, and she is very attracted to me. We've been texting each other a little bit for a couple of weeks now, and she is hinting toward me asking her out. The thing is, i don't really feel like going out or anything with her. I mean, she's cute and everything, but i dunno if i really want to date her or not. What do you guys think, should i go for it?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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It's not that i'm scared she's going to say no. I know she'd say yes, cuz she obviously has a crush on me. The thing is whether or not I want to go out on a date with her. I'm actually kind of on the fence here
 

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I dunno, i think it's because i'm really just not all that into her, because whenever i try and flirt with her (with texting) she always just takes it seriously.... I dunno, but i think that's what puts me on the fence. Either i'm not all that funny/good at flirting, or she just has no sense of humor, and i doubt it's me
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Date her, but don't go out with her. There's a huge difference. I'm dating 5+ girls right now, but I don't have a "girlfriend". Go on dates, do sh!t with her, maybe get your d!ck wet a little and have fun. If she wants to be exclusive she will let you know. Just be straight up with her when she asks. "I'm not really looking for a relationship right now, but I enjoy your company and hanging out with you. We should do this more often.." etc.. I have one girl who literally calls herself my "number one ho" because she knows she will never be my girlfriend, but she knows I still love hanging out and making out. :]
 

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Major props to OP for thinking about what HE wants, not what she wants.
 
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