Alright, well on Friday I met this girl named Lindsey at school and she seems pretty interested in me, however, only as a friend. I'm sexually interseted however I don't know if I should go for it. Main reason is this, she's got a boyfriend. How do I know? Well when she was talking I asked if she had a boyfriend and she told me she does and he goes to College and use to go here last year. As much as I would want to move things along with this girl, I just wouldn't want to break them up. But she did seem pretty interested in me when we talked, didn't give the number(Well, said she'd give it to me later), but she was definitely somewhat interested(Even going as far as saying "Hi Mike!" later that day). But I don't know if I want to move things out of the friend zone when she has a boyfriend. Secondly, if I was going to try and move things out of the friend zone onto a more sexual relation what could I do?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Should I go for a 'more than friends' relationship with this girl?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Well I actually did kino her a lot, but I don't know if that really changed anything, because after all she still said "I'll give it to you later". If she was REALLY interested and didn't have any doubts, she would've just gave it to me. How did I kino? Basically putting my hands on her shoulders, there this one time where I put my real high up on her leg. Maybe I should start doing heavier kino?ChrizZ said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
KontrollerX
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She'll do to you what she'll do to him.
If you proceed with this and she jumps over to your branch of interest protect your heart as its only going to be a fling before she drops you the same way she dropped her man for you.
If you proceed with this and she jumps over to your branch of interest protect your heart as its only going to be a fling before she drops you the same way she dropped her man for you.
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I personally would not go for it. Thats a huge rule of mine, no stealing gfs without good reason, i.e. he cheats, beats her, or is just a bad guy. BUT, if you do go for her, I'd say take your time. Progress very slowly, and keep up with subtle kino that can be justified if it's questioned. Don't make any moves until you are 100% sure she'd be cool with it.
Or kill her boyfriend and make it look like a mugging. Only thing better than crashing weddings is crashing funerals
Or kill her boyfriend and make it look like a mugging. Only thing better than crashing weddings is crashing funerals