"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I had knew this girl in february while i was eating in a restaurant...she was the waitress.
I tried to approach her but she had a boyfriend and didint went well.
I didnt even got her cell number altough i have her on fb.
Sincerely i havent tried with her really seriously
In may she dumped her boyfriend but i've been really busy so i didnt made a moove

Do you think it will be good to ask her if she want to go drink something with facebook?

Thx guys
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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In may she dumped her boyfriend but i've been really busy so i didnt made a moove
Muthaf*cka you playing. You can lie to yourself, but you can't lie to DJ's here on SoSuave. Unless you were overseas conducting acquisitions or merges, or trying to find a diplomatic resolution to the civil war in Syria, Rex ABJECTLY REFUSES to believe in the six months since May to November that every minute of your day was fill that you couldn't find time to ask this chick out.

Do you think it will be good to ask her if she want to go drink something with facebook? Thx guys
No and here's why. I'm going to assume that you're just one of this chick's legion of fans on FB. You, yourself have said that you "haven't tried nor were very serious," with the broad. You already shot down by the broad, so unless your life has significantly changed during the pass six months, (e.g. you added muscle to your frame or money to your bank account,) it's fair to say that her reaction to you is going to be the same as when you initially asked her out.

Rex generally only gives a chick one chance to reject him and you should do the same. Finally, if you do ask her out, do it in person. Asking a chick (who's already turned you down,) via Facebook will not only appear to be hella random, it will also appear to be hella gay.
 
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It couldn't hurt to give it a shot. She broke up with her BF in May and you're barely getting around to hitting her up? 6 months later? You need to be quicker next time my friend.
 

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'Hella gay' lol, Rex you make me laugh man. But yeah, no Facebook crap. Just ask her out. Picking up "hired guns"; waitresses, bartenders, hostesses, etc. can come off as sleazy but it just has to be done right. Do a google search, there's methods out there. And Matt, no offense buddy, but your grammar is sh*tty. Makes the post a chore to read. Just sayin'
 

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Lets say my life changed quite a lot...in those 5 month i had to study to pass the lawyer exam ( which i passed ;)) so yeah i was very busy!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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GS750 said:
Picking up "hired guns"; waitresses, bartenders, hostesses, etc. can come off as sleazy but it just has to be done right.
I disagree on the "sleazy," point. As a matter of fact I think hired guns are the easiest chick to holler at, simply because there's no need for an opener and these b*tches have to be nice to and engage you. Because these parameters are already in with hired gun, you can go right into building rapport, kinda like you would the infamous "hollerin' at co-workers," minus the potential for sexual harassment suit.
 

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Btw she doesnt work in that restaurant anymore so fb for now its the only choice to contact her
 

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matt86 said:
Lets say my life changed quite a lot...in those 5 month i had to study to pass the lawyer exam ( which i passed ;)) so yeah i was very busy!
Okay, you should have said you were studying for the bar. Not for nothing when cats on this site say they're busy, they're really not, and they're not especially not studying for the bar, the CPA exam, or the series 7.

Since you're a lawyer, you need to show her signs of your new found life change, not by telling her, but by SHOWING her. First you need to get some fresh new gear. Perhaps a bespoke suit, a bespoke blazer or sports coat, with a slick pair of jeans or slacks. You should also invest in very fly kicks, like some Allen Edmond shoes.

As you pursue this chick, go at moderate pace as you build your rapport and comfort with her, most importantly she NEEDS TO SEE YOU WITH CHICKS WAAAY HOTTER THAN SHE IS! Social proof is of up most importance in this particular in endeavor.

I have to warn you, with this particular chick you have a (long row to hoe.) in that you have to overcome your initially bad first impression. Unfortunately, that first impression of you is the one that's emblazoned in her head.
 

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Btw she doesnt work in that restaurant anymore so fb for now its the only choice to contact her
Personally, I wouldn't to try f*ck with a chick that I made a very bad first impression, who I only know through causal contact from her job, and I'm nothing more to her than a Facebook friend. Besides, your a lawyer in about six months to a year, you'll have your pick of chicks.
 
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