Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Should I get out? OR should I stay?

AviCKter

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Let me start with the background story.

I started talking with a girl whose home is right across, but lives in a different city for her studies. She's 19. We hit it off in the beginning, and started sharing intimate stories pretty quickly over phone. She came home and we went out for a couple of time, hand holding but no kissing since we're from the conservative world. It was going great and we were making progress. But then things changed after some drama regarding her and me leaving home to another city.

Now for the dilemma, she calls/pings me every day, we talk/chat but she says she needs time to get over her past boyfriend (they broke up a year ago). She shares a lot about other guys she's talking to or who ask her out. Now, she has started creating more drama, saying we can't talk, lets chat giving some excuses, and she's going out with other guys. Her Ex-boyfriend calls her sometime and so do her ex's family. And now, she has started to dictate whether we talk or chat, mostly she wants to chat because this probably gives her the chance to talk with other guys and I simply say no to her demands. I'm in a fix, I like this girl but don't know whether to push this.

Should I get out of it, now that she's doing all this crazy things? Should I entertain her? Should I give her some space and go do the Don Jaun way?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Desdinova

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I'm in a fix, I like this girl but don't know whether to push this.
In other words, she's attractive, but she's pissing you off.

If she's pissing you off at this stage, it's only going to get worse as more time passes. If you enjoy being frustrated and disrespected by drama-filled bytches with orbiters, she's perfect for you. However, if you want a half-decent woman who will give you very little aggravation, you should look elsewhere.
 

marmel75

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Conservative never wins. And I don't want to hear "that's how things are".

Doesn't matter what excuse you want to use not going for what you want isn't attractive to women. You are friendzoned as deep as possible.

Nothing is going to happen with this chick, move on and read the DJ Bible and rational male so you don't repeat the same mistakes
 

parkthebus

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You just want people to tell you what you already know. She is not interested in a sexual relationship with you whatsoever. You know this.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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AttackFormation

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This is what I call the "standard male problem". Men come here and will in either long or short stories say: "Help me, I know that what I want to do is dumb and bad for my future, but I'm too weak to supersede my bloated ego that dominates me like a b!tch. What should I do?". Men are their own worst enemies not because of how stupid they are (which certainly happens too) but because of how mentally weak they are, a condition that they ironically like to subscribe to females.
 
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