Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Should I follow up

Calibuck

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Good Morning,

I took this girl out last Wed and asked her out on a second date. She said yes, but when I arranged the specifics she said she would let me know today if she has to travel for work on that day. She put a smiley at the end of the text.

If she doesn't follow up with me, should I reach out to her?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Calibuck

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So, she never contacted me yesterday.

Is my play just to drop her and move on? She's very hot only reason why I care.
 

Infern0

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Mauser96 said:
Do Nothing.

The ball is in her court, she has been asked, let her respond. If she doesn't get in touch with you by the time the date rolls around she either forgot (doubtful) is playing games, or has low interest. In any case, if she didn't get back to me by the time the date came, then I would delete the number.


Never pin all your bets on one horse.
Can I ask why you delete the number, serious question.

I don't doubt your ability to prevent yourself from texting, but if she texts down the line you could confirm something then.

If you don't know who it is you are demonstrating butthurt because you deleted the number. It is possible that something more important than going out again with a guy she dated one time.

I just don't see the logic in it from a tactics standpoint
 

Alvafe

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Infern0 said:
Can I ask why you delete the number, serious question.

I don't doubt your ability to prevent yourself from texting, but if she texts down the line you could confirm something then.

If you don't know who it is you are demonstrating butthurt because you deleted the number. It is possible that something more important than going out again with a guy she dated one time.

I just don't see the logic in it from a tactics standpoint

don't matter, deleting it or not is up to you, but the real question is if she texts you don't the line you should be busy with other woman, she didn't bother to even give you a call telling you if the date will happen or not, you are low priority.

by now I would consider the date not happening and you should make others plans, if she calls you on the day or a day before trying to confirm you tell her oh, I made others plans. maybe next time when you are not so busy. and in a week or 2 try again.

your tactics standpoint should be I have others things to pursue then your sorry ass, if she come around good, if not her loss, there is a lot of woman around to waste time with a girl who want to play little games
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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