"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Should I follow up

Calibuck

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Good Morning,

I took this girl out last Wed and asked her out on a second date. She said yes, but when I arranged the specifics she said she would let me know today if she has to travel for work on that day. She put a smiley at the end of the text.

If she doesn't follow up with me, should I reach out to her?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Calibuck

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So, she never contacted me yesterday.

Is my play just to drop her and move on? She's very hot only reason why I care.
 

Infern0

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Mauser96 said:
Do Nothing.

The ball is in her court, she has been asked, let her respond. If she doesn't get in touch with you by the time the date rolls around she either forgot (doubtful) is playing games, or has low interest. In any case, if she didn't get back to me by the time the date came, then I would delete the number.


Never pin all your bets on one horse.
Can I ask why you delete the number, serious question.

I don't doubt your ability to prevent yourself from texting, but if she texts down the line you could confirm something then.

If you don't know who it is you are demonstrating butthurt because you deleted the number. It is possible that something more important than going out again with a guy she dated one time.

I just don't see the logic in it from a tactics standpoint
 

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Infern0 said:
Can I ask why you delete the number, serious question.

I don't doubt your ability to prevent yourself from texting, but if she texts down the line you could confirm something then.

If you don't know who it is you are demonstrating butthurt because you deleted the number. It is possible that something more important than going out again with a guy she dated one time.

I just don't see the logic in it from a tactics standpoint

don't matter, deleting it or not is up to you, but the real question is if she texts you don't the line you should be busy with other woman, she didn't bother to even give you a call telling you if the date will happen or not, you are low priority.

by now I would consider the date not happening and you should make others plans, if she calls you on the day or a day before trying to confirm you tell her oh, I made others plans. maybe next time when you are not so busy. and in a week or 2 try again.

your tactics standpoint should be I have others things to pursue then your sorry ass, if she come around good, if not her loss, there is a lot of woman around to waste time with a girl who want to play little games
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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