"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Should I follow only one Guru?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
KarmaSutra
Banned
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As I told you before, Take that which is pertinant to your situation and experience then discard the rest.
Nothing is entirely Gospel truth.
AlexTheGreat
Senior Don Juan
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You shouldn't follow just one guy because you will simply be mimicking him. If you read about more people's ways, you will have a wider range of experience and knowledge, so your overall evolution will be more complete. Read from EVERYONE and take everything with a grain of salt
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
darkme_legendary
Don Juan
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From other sources: Take anything that works from other sources, integrate it and discard the rest.
You don't become an olympic swimmer over night, you don't go from having no clue about women to being a don juan/mack/pimp/player over night. You get out and learn, you practice, you see what works, you refine you game, you practice some more and eventually you figure out what your doing and what works for you. Just like anything else in life. Good luck newbie.
KontrollerX
Master Don Juan
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Take lessons from many different teachers and take the advice from them that you think will work for you.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.