"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Should I find a New Job?

Georgepithyou

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Hwre is a short summary

Pros
*Workplace is close to home (10 minute walk)
*Average Salary
*Gov Job (contractor)
*Flexbility to work from home
*easy work

Cons
*mostly older women
*office is mostly empty since most work from home
*colleagues are introverted
*can get boring

So i work in HR, I'm wondering should i start searching for work with a place that has more younger people even if it means i need to commute over 30 minutes to get to work?

I cant really make friends since half the time the office is completly empty, and the average age is 45 while im in my early 20s. They aren't the hot cougar time either sadly.

I'm not sure what to do exactly
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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AureliusMaximus

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Sounds like a dead-end job dude.
Find something better and more exciting where you can excel further in your life and have fun too.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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speed dawg

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Sounds like a very low-risk job and steady pay. There's something to be said for that. Good benefits as well I'm guessing.

I would look into a side-job. I have a similar job to you. The alternative is working in the corporate world, in which I already did but left to come to this job to free up stress and time. If you are passionate about what you do, sure, go to the corporate side. If not, start a side job in a field of your choosing.

If you are looking to make friends/plates where you work, well, that is just a bad idea altogether. Not saying they don't happen, but it should be a very natural thing, rather than an intentional quest.
 

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Most jobs suck, don't expect that to change much. Almost all jobs will end up sucking over time.

On the younger coworker side, the company I work for has a small but decent contingent of younger people that are fun to hang with, and I've made good friends that way, both thru them and directly. The vast majority of people there are 40-something with 2.2 kids and they never have any kind of fun. (I'm in my 40s myself, but no kids)

Be careful with companies that have a lot of young people in them like startups. The grass might seem greener, but those companies are more unstable. Even if you make friends, they're much more likely to bail within a few years for another city/state.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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doesn't matter so much what you do, just conserve/save/invest. sounds like you are in a great position to do a side hustle or invest energy into some other thing you might find focus in such as martial arts, music, charity. Many men spend most of their energy on work, you have the chance right now, right now, to do or learn anything you want because you have a safety net and time. This is a great situation you're in, take advantage of it. might not ever be like that again.
 

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doesn't matter so much what you do, just conserve/save/invest. sounds like you are in a great position to do a side hustle or invest energy into some other thing you might find focus in such as martial arts, music, charity. Many men spend most of their energy on work, you have the chance right now, right now, to do or learn anything you want because you have a safety net and time. This is a great situation you're in, take advantage of it. might not ever be like that again.
great advice, that's leadership
 

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Pros
*Workplace is close to home (10 minute walk)
*Average Salary
*Gov Job (contractor)
*Flexbility to work from home
*easy work

Can’t ask for more out of job to be honest. Commute alone is outstanding you can save so much money. Others in this thread gave solid advice; work on your passion after hours.
 

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Can’t ask for more out of job to be honest. Commute alone is outstanding you can save so much money. Others in this thread gave solid advice; work on your passion after hours.
Yeah, work on your passions after hours. Until you can't take it any more. Or until you realize it's not that bad or that you like it. There's no other way.
It's important to sleep well at night. It's important to be happy. And then it's important to realize that work is...well...it's work. Unless you're pursuing your passion. And in that case it's work and sacrifice. But it might be worth it.
 
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