"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Should I find a New Job?

Georgepithyou

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Hwre is a short summary

Pros
*Workplace is close to home (10 minute walk)
*Average Salary
*Gov Job (contractor)
*Flexbility to work from home
*easy work

Cons
*mostly older women
*office is mostly empty since most work from home
*colleagues are introverted
*can get boring

So i work in HR, I'm wondering should i start searching for work with a place that has more younger people even if it means i need to commute over 30 minutes to get to work?

I cant really make friends since half the time the office is completly empty, and the average age is 45 while im in my early 20s. They aren't the hot cougar time either sadly.

I'm not sure what to do exactly
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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AureliusMaximus

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Sounds like a dead-end job dude.
Find something better and more exciting where you can excel further in your life and have fun too.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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speed dawg

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Sounds like a very low-risk job and steady pay. There's something to be said for that. Good benefits as well I'm guessing.

I would look into a side-job. I have a similar job to you. The alternative is working in the corporate world, in which I already did but left to come to this job to free up stress and time. If you are passionate about what you do, sure, go to the corporate side. If not, start a side job in a field of your choosing.

If you are looking to make friends/plates where you work, well, that is just a bad idea altogether. Not saying they don't happen, but it should be a very natural thing, rather than an intentional quest.
 

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Most jobs suck, don't expect that to change much. Almost all jobs will end up sucking over time.

On the younger coworker side, the company I work for has a small but decent contingent of younger people that are fun to hang with, and I've made good friends that way, both thru them and directly. The vast majority of people there are 40-something with 2.2 kids and they never have any kind of fun. (I'm in my 40s myself, but no kids)

Be careful with companies that have a lot of young people in them like startups. The grass might seem greener, but those companies are more unstable. Even if you make friends, they're much more likely to bail within a few years for another city/state.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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doesn't matter so much what you do, just conserve/save/invest. sounds like you are in a great position to do a side hustle or invest energy into some other thing you might find focus in such as martial arts, music, charity. Many men spend most of their energy on work, you have the chance right now, right now, to do or learn anything you want because you have a safety net and time. This is a great situation you're in, take advantage of it. might not ever be like that again.
 

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doesn't matter so much what you do, just conserve/save/invest. sounds like you are in a great position to do a side hustle or invest energy into some other thing you might find focus in such as martial arts, music, charity. Many men spend most of their energy on work, you have the chance right now, right now, to do or learn anything you want because you have a safety net and time. This is a great situation you're in, take advantage of it. might not ever be like that again.
great advice, that's leadership
 

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*Workplace is close to home (10 minute walk)
*Average Salary
*Gov Job (contractor)
*Flexbility to work from home
*easy work

Can’t ask for more out of job to be honest. Commute alone is outstanding you can save so much money. Others in this thread gave solid advice; work on your passion after hours.
 

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Can’t ask for more out of job to be honest. Commute alone is outstanding you can save so much money. Others in this thread gave solid advice; work on your passion after hours.
Yeah, work on your passions after hours. Until you can't take it any more. Or until you realize it's not that bad or that you like it. There's no other way.
It's important to sleep well at night. It's important to be happy. And then it's important to realize that work is...well...it's work. Unless you're pursuing your passion. And in that case it's work and sacrifice. But it might be worth it.
 
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