"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Should I FACEBOOK.com a girl

juleswinns

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I want to facebook this hot girl who's a customer at my job. She's a student like myself and I found her on facebook (myspace for students) and I'm wondering if I should contact her. She has a boyfriend but he's a dork and she's been giving me IOI's.

Any advise?:whistle:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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BacardiGuy

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If you're going to do it, make the move in person at work.

And post in the right areas.
 

sanyo7878

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I wouldn't add her as a friend unless you have really had serious conversation with her (you know, other than about your job while you are at work).
 

Eccentric

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Talk to her in person. You'll do better.
 

Luveno

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The internet is a good place to meet NEW girls. It is not a place to try to gain the attention of girls you already know. Doing so is supplication, which diminishes your value.

The best thing for you to do is to make the move at work in person. It's easy. Suggest a martini or a coffee on Friday evening.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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State

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The whole facebook thing is cool once you've been formally introduced. DO NOT IM her or contact her through facebook. Its not a good idea. I don't know by personal experience but I have friends that mess their chances up with girls because they use facebook or hi5 etc.
 
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