"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Should I do it? Sleep with BPD's ex female lover
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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AJ84
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Gaslighting
Do you know where that term orginated? It's from an old movie.
Google it.
And I'm not blame shifting.
What I'm saying is that many times, if someone has a relationship that doesn't work out, the blame isn't all 100% on one person.
When my gf dates guys who cheat and she breaks up with them months after because she can no longer trust him I say well you could no longer trust him the minute you found out so why did you stay with him for 8 months? What part did you play in feeling crappy by staying? You stayed with him knowing you could no longer trust him so is that his fault that you stayed? No.
So if some guy is with a BDP girl and she cuts her wrists because he didn't text her back right away and he stays with her and continues onto a toxic relationship, why did he stay and let this emotionally unwell person get more and more attached? Then place all the blame on her for causing his life to be hell weeks or months later.
Of course she is at fault too LA, but it's not all on her.
That's what I mean.
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I already explained that I am not trying to place blame all on him, my examples are illustrations of the point I was trying to make.
I don't think the OP is crazy. I actually said its human nature to want to get back at people who did us wrong, I'm not sure what in my posts made you come to that conclusion, maybe that's how you yourself would interpret what I wrote.
LA, believe what you want to believe. I don't care.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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Okay so a hot ***** is literally asking to **** you. I don’t see what the problem is. And she’s bisexual too? Tell her to get a 3some going. If your ex finds out you had a 3some with her best friend and another chick, she’ll be livid. Do it you pansy. Can’t believe someone needs confirmation on whether or not he should bang a hot chick.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Yep, it’s a classic example. Usually a trail of emotionally messed up people left in their wake.
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Let me get this right.. She is diagnosed as BIPOLAR? Has ANXIETY disorder.. Diagnosed with ADHD
Holy Chit... A former SEX WORKER! She is taking meds!
And you chose to enter into a RELATIONSHIP with this woman!
This had disaster written ALL OVER it.. The fact that you dated a former sex worker, proves that as a man, you have set your standards WAAAY to LOW.
What did you expect from a BROKEN woman like this? Some kind of fuking Disney ending!
You did not screen her, you did not walk away at the first sign of serious trouble.. You chose a damaged woman!
You have to take responsibility for the disicions YOU made!
Forget seeking revenge! Ask yourself WHY you even entertained a former sex worker, or a woman with this many Issues!
People only treat you, the way you ALLOW them to treat you..
Quit on the revenge... Focus on yourself and how you can learn to make better decisions in the future!
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Do ittttt this sounds like it'll be the best story to ever tell
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Simple...I DIDNT CARE. She was a nut job and it was easy for me to get what I wanted from her for sex and other things. Look, I know you are trying to be helpful. But it’s not like every girl you date has to be the one you eventually marry. I kept this chick away from friends and family. It wasn’t like I thought she was my future wife.
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You didn't care? Then obviously she didn't mean much to you.. You kept her away from family and friends, as you stated... You knew she was a nut job!
If you didn't care, then why the need to exact revenge? If she didn't mean anything to you, then why make this thread, expressing such ANGER towards her, and the need to ruin her!
When a person doesn't care, they just shrug there shoulders and move along.. They don't make threads on forums, expressing anger!
The fact is you DO CARE
You need to take some responsibility, otherwise you will be back in this similar situation all over again!!
If you choose to get emotionally involved with sex workers, woman with mental issues, or toxic low quality woman, then DO NOT be surprised when they MIND fuk you over, and leave you scared for years to come.
Chooose wisely the woman you get involved with!
This is not us having a pop at you, but we are advising you, have better judgement, blaming her will not keep you away from a repeat situation like this.
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This validates your post is only meant for "seeking attention".
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It really depends how hot she is and I’m being totally serious. If the chick is a true 8 or above, I don’t care how bad **** crazy she is I would bang her. Anything less hell no. A true 8/10 is hot as **** though...guys give out 8’s so easily these days
Your damn right...every BPD I have ever been with is into women as well.You shouldn't fvck her just to piss off your ex though...If you fvck her do it because it's what you want to do,if you do it just for revenge that means your BPD EX still owns your ass.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
If the girl really is a sugar baby to a very wealthy man, I would bang her raw with a camera on.
The guys who are saying he’s hung up over his ex are dumb. If he’s hung up over his ex it will get him LAID. This BPD is offering sex on a silver platter. Why not go for it?
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Would you dumb fvcks shut the fvck up about being mind fvcked about some fvcking BPD? DATE WHO YOU WANT AND ILL DATE WHO I WANT. When I was younger, I would've been fvcked up by them because I would've thought the love was real. But when you can get to the point of viewing them as mentally ill people with the emotional maturity of a 4 year old, how can you take them seriously? IT WOULD BE PEDOPHILIA WERE IT NOT FOR THEM BEING IN AN ADULT BODY. They're just jokes. But they are just for fun. Tell me, would a normal girl eat out your ******* for an hour straight as you watch House of Cards? Normal girls are fvcking boring, and I enjoy the games.
I will post a pic of the billionaire's former sugar baby when I get around to it. This is the girl I can fvck. The only problem is the EX has dirt on me and I'm worried about thermonuclear war. Some NPD who would hit up the strip clubs has a bunch of dirt on her (recordings of him jizzing on her face and stuff), and I may see if I can get some dirt from him, if he would be willing to play. She fvcked him over recently over airplane tickets, so I am sure he would be down.
I will post a pic of the billionaire's former sugar baby when I get around to it. This is the girl I can fvck. The only problem is the EX has dirt on me and I'm worried about thermonuclear war. Some NPD who would hit up the strip clubs has a bunch of dirt on her (recordings of him jizzing on her face and stuff), and I may see if I can get some dirt from him, if he would be willing to play. She fvcked him over recently over airplane tickets, so I am sure he would be down.