teacha
Senior Don Juan
Keep Posting Rescue Mission...i Like That Mentality You Got When It Comes To Women And Dating.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
No no no. I can't believe you actually said that.Rescue Mission said:Maxtro, looks ARE the most important thing FOR A SOCIALLY AWKWARD GUY.
A girl coming up to me and telling that I'm cute will certainly be an ego booster. Then it's up to my skills to turn it into something more. Frankly though, the same thing could happen if a girl tells me that she likes my shirt or my shoes.How would YOU feel if one day, a cute girl came up to you and told you "hey you're cute, my name is XXX"........ya think, maybe, just maybe, that would give you confidence and HELP you converse with her?
you can't improve social skills if people think that you look weird/creepy/nerdy....you won';t even be given the chance to improve social skills by people in generalMaxtro said:No no no. I can't believe you actually said that.
The most important thing for a socially awkward guy is to try and improve his social skills. He has to talk to more people, try to make friends and put himself in situations that are outside of his comfort zone.
How you can even connect looks to being socially awkward is beyond me.
A girl coming up to me and telling that I'm cute will certainly be an ego booster. Then it's up to my skills to turn it into something more. Frankly though, the same thing could happen if a girl tells me that she likes my shirt or my shoes.
I don't need to look perfect to be able to talk to girls.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I'd have 123(emergency number here) in fast dial. Nobody ever does that and if they ever do, it's probably to scam me or to throw me a fistful of scopolamine.How would YOU feel if one day, a cute girl came up to you and told you "hey you're cute, my name is XXX"
Really? Then you haven't been paying attention. This guy's fuckin' garbage, dude. He trots around crying about looks mattering all day long and how all the scientists are wrong with ZERO research, ZERO publications in respected scientific journals, and ZERO support from any respected member of the world of seduction. Anything is bound to come out of a guy's mouth like that, man.Maxtro said:No no no. I can't believe you actually said that.
Well, it does happen. I had a girl a few semesters ago hand me a piece of paper after class that said "you're hot! lets hang out" with her name and number on it. I tried to bang her, but failed. I had her over at my house even but didn't get a second date. Weird, huh? Only to those who are uninformed about how sexual selection works. To me, this makes perfect sense since I lack confidence, the proper amount of masculine assertiveness, and dominance. Since these are the traits that women desire in a mate (contrary to what tabloids and various reality TV shows would have you believe), I did not get to nail this chick. This is information that only comes from personal experience and doing one's homework.Nygard said:I'd have 123(emergency number here) in fast dial. Nobody ever does that and if they ever do, it's probably to scam me or to throw me a fistful of scopolamine.
My sentiments exactly!!!!handle said:I haven't read any of your advice but judging by this ridiculous post I think you should stop regardless. Seriously, who asks this?
Not to me, and that's the point. I don't deny that it happens to other people like yourself.Well, it does happen.
Just a Shot Away said:To me, this makes perfect sense since I lack confidence, the proper amount of masculine assertiveness, and dominance. Since these are the traits that women desire in a mate (contrary to what tabloids and various reality TV shows would have you believe), I did not get to nail this chick. This is information that only comes from personal experience and doing one's homework.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Hehe, this is the only response the OP should have gotten.Ease said:We only give advice to serve our own interests.
Whether that be ego or self assurance, i dont know.
Heres some advice, keep posting if you want to.
1) you are clinically insane, to think that nerdy scientific research is needed to figure out whether a hot bytch likes a good looking dude over a bad looking one.Just a Shot Away said:He trots around crying about looks mattering all day long and how all the scientists are wrong with ZERO research, ZERO publications in respected scientific journals, and ZERO support from any respected member of the world of seduction.
RC, you complain that you're tired of getting into arguments with people that don't share your POV, that attack you and that they're filthy nerds that will likely kill themselves in a basement someday and whatnot. Okay, yes, we got the point. But it also takes two to dance, and you are acting there like a damn good dancer. Do you want to stop getting into arguments? Stop answering them back.I have made out with girls at clubs just 3 seconds after making eye contact, because they thought I was hot........at the same time I was pushed away by girls at clubs who thought I was too ugly to even have a chance
Nygard said:RC, you complain that you're tired of getting into arguments with people that don't share your POV, that attack you and that they're filthy nerds that will likely kill themselves in a basement someday and whatnot. Okay, yes, we got the point. But it also takes two to dance, and you are acting there like a damn good dancer. Do you want to stop getting into arguments? Stop answering them back.
Do you really, really believe that arguing with them is gonna make them change their opinion? If anything, they'll believe you even less.I prefer to shut them up with logic so that they understand that their thinking is wrong and they need to change.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Why are you asking us if you should keep on posting? Unless you just want more validationRescue Mission said:I have noticed that, ironically, the only people on here that take my advice (or better said, believe in my advice) are the ones who don't need it because they are good with women already.
It seems like the guys who need my advice the most are just too stuck in their own socially awkward heads to BELIEVE in the changes that are necessary in order for them to be helped and to grow into real life players and don juans.
Should I even bother any more? Yes or No?
Rescue Mission said:1) you are clinically insane, to think that nerdy scientific research is needed to figure out whether a hot bytch likes a good looking dude over a bad looking one.
2) Respected member in the world of seduction? They are business people who want to make $$, so of course "looks don't matter" is what they will tell every nerd, creep, geek, and goober out there!! If they told the TRUTH, they'd just be helping create business for gyms, clothing companies, tanning salons, and hair stylists lol.
3) I don't need nerdy science for this, nor do I need to read this SHYT in any publication.......I have been in the dating game for 10 years (and you can count the first 3 years when I was a creepy virgin who looked like crap, and never had any girl interested in me). I have REAL LIFE EXPERIENCE to back up the reality of the situation, and not just REAL LIFE EXPERIENCE, but I have POSITIVE and NEGATIVE experience, ya understand that?? I have made out with girls at clubs just 3 seconds after making eye contact, because they thought I was hot........at the same time I was pushed away by girls at clubs who thought I was too ugly to even have a chance
4) Stop being an ignorant know-it-all who never has sex........try CHANGING your point of view, and maybe that will help change YOUR SUCCESS!
I don't NEED it. I have personal experience for that. The experts in this field merely back it up.Rescue Mission said:1) you are clinically insane, to think that nerdy scientific research is needed to figure out whether a hot bytch likes a good looking dude over a bad looking one.
You're right about this one. I definitely need a perspective overhaul. I have no self-esteem or confidence, which is why I don't get girls. I already know that I'm physically attractive to women. Walking around thinking I can get girls just because I'm physically attractive really isn't going to do the trick.try CHANGING your point of view, and maybe that will help change YOUR SUCCESS!
So wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait....you dismiss scientific research as "nerdy" and question the validity of it in favor of opinions, hunches, and theories but then turn right back around and begin beating the logic drum? You can't have it both ways, deary. Pick a side. What's it gonna be? Science and Logic or Theories and Conjecture?I prefer to shut them up with logic
:crackup: Wow. Just...wow.Falcon25 said:LOOKS ARE EVERYTHING.
You're still confusing appearance with looks? You have a real problem with reading comprehension. I've been explaining this very simple concept to you for months.The way you stand, the way you look, how big your muscles are, how your clothes fit you. How tall you are. How overweight or skinny. Girls look at these FIRST.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.