teacha
Senior Don Juan
Keep Posting Rescue Mission...i Like That Mentality You Got When It Comes To Women And Dating.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
No no no. I can't believe you actually said that.Rescue Mission said:Maxtro, looks ARE the most important thing FOR A SOCIALLY AWKWARD GUY.
A girl coming up to me and telling that I'm cute will certainly be an ego booster. Then it's up to my skills to turn it into something more. Frankly though, the same thing could happen if a girl tells me that she likes my shirt or my shoes.How would YOU feel if one day, a cute girl came up to you and told you "hey you're cute, my name is XXX"........ya think, maybe, just maybe, that would give you confidence and HELP you converse with her?
you can't improve social skills if people think that you look weird/creepy/nerdy....you won';t even be given the chance to improve social skills by people in generalMaxtro said:No no no. I can't believe you actually said that.
The most important thing for a socially awkward guy is to try and improve his social skills. He has to talk to more people, try to make friends and put himself in situations that are outside of his comfort zone.
How you can even connect looks to being socially awkward is beyond me.
A girl coming up to me and telling that I'm cute will certainly be an ego booster. Then it's up to my skills to turn it into something more. Frankly though, the same thing could happen if a girl tells me that she likes my shirt or my shoes.
I don't need to look perfect to be able to talk to girls.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I'd have 123(emergency number here) in fast dial. Nobody ever does that and if they ever do, it's probably to scam me or to throw me a fistful of scopolamine.How would YOU feel if one day, a cute girl came up to you and told you "hey you're cute, my name is XXX"
Really? Then you haven't been paying attention. This guy's fuckin' garbage, dude. He trots around crying about looks mattering all day long and how all the scientists are wrong with ZERO research, ZERO publications in respected scientific journals, and ZERO support from any respected member of the world of seduction. Anything is bound to come out of a guy's mouth like that, man.Maxtro said:No no no. I can't believe you actually said that.
Well, it does happen. I had a girl a few semesters ago hand me a piece of paper after class that said "you're hot! lets hang out" with her name and number on it. I tried to bang her, but failed. I had her over at my house even but didn't get a second date. Weird, huh? Only to those who are uninformed about how sexual selection works. To me, this makes perfect sense since I lack confidence, the proper amount of masculine assertiveness, and dominance. Since these are the traits that women desire in a mate (contrary to what tabloids and various reality TV shows would have you believe), I did not get to nail this chick. This is information that only comes from personal experience and doing one's homework.Nygard said:I'd have 123(emergency number here) in fast dial. Nobody ever does that and if they ever do, it's probably to scam me or to throw me a fistful of scopolamine.
My sentiments exactly!!!!handle said:I haven't read any of your advice but judging by this ridiculous post I think you should stop regardless. Seriously, who asks this?
Not to me, and that's the point. I don't deny that it happens to other people like yourself.Well, it does happen.
Just a Shot Away said:To me, this makes perfect sense since I lack confidence, the proper amount of masculine assertiveness, and dominance. Since these are the traits that women desire in a mate (contrary to what tabloids and various reality TV shows would have you believe), I did not get to nail this chick. This is information that only comes from personal experience and doing one's homework.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Hehe, this is the only response the OP should have gotten.Ease said:We only give advice to serve our own interests.
Whether that be ego or self assurance, i dont know.
Heres some advice, keep posting if you want to.
1) you are clinically insane, to think that nerdy scientific research is needed to figure out whether a hot bytch likes a good looking dude over a bad looking one.Just a Shot Away said:He trots around crying about looks mattering all day long and how all the scientists are wrong with ZERO research, ZERO publications in respected scientific journals, and ZERO support from any respected member of the world of seduction.
RC, you complain that you're tired of getting into arguments with people that don't share your POV, that attack you and that they're filthy nerds that will likely kill themselves in a basement someday and whatnot. Okay, yes, we got the point. But it also takes two to dance, and you are acting there like a damn good dancer. Do you want to stop getting into arguments? Stop answering them back.I have made out with girls at clubs just 3 seconds after making eye contact, because they thought I was hot........at the same time I was pushed away by girls at clubs who thought I was too ugly to even have a chance
Nygard said:RC, you complain that you're tired of getting into arguments with people that don't share your POV, that attack you and that they're filthy nerds that will likely kill themselves in a basement someday and whatnot. Okay, yes, we got the point. But it also takes two to dance, and you are acting there like a damn good dancer. Do you want to stop getting into arguments? Stop answering them back.
Do you really, really believe that arguing with them is gonna make them change their opinion? If anything, they'll believe you even less.I prefer to shut them up with logic so that they understand that their thinking is wrong and they need to change.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Why are you asking us if you should keep on posting? Unless you just want more validationRescue Mission said:I have noticed that, ironically, the only people on here that take my advice (or better said, believe in my advice) are the ones who don't need it because they are good with women already.
It seems like the guys who need my advice the most are just too stuck in their own socially awkward heads to BELIEVE in the changes that are necessary in order for them to be helped and to grow into real life players and don juans.
Should I even bother any more? Yes or No?
Rescue Mission said:1) you are clinically insane, to think that nerdy scientific research is needed to figure out whether a hot bytch likes a good looking dude over a bad looking one.
2) Respected member in the world of seduction? They are business people who want to make $$, so of course "looks don't matter" is what they will tell every nerd, creep, geek, and goober out there!! If they told the TRUTH, they'd just be helping create business for gyms, clothing companies, tanning salons, and hair stylists lol.
3) I don't need nerdy science for this, nor do I need to read this SHYT in any publication.......I have been in the dating game for 10 years (and you can count the first 3 years when I was a creepy virgin who looked like crap, and never had any girl interested in me). I have REAL LIFE EXPERIENCE to back up the reality of the situation, and not just REAL LIFE EXPERIENCE, but I have POSITIVE and NEGATIVE experience, ya understand that?? I have made out with girls at clubs just 3 seconds after making eye contact, because they thought I was hot........at the same time I was pushed away by girls at clubs who thought I was too ugly to even have a chance
4) Stop being an ignorant know-it-all who never has sex........try CHANGING your point of view, and maybe that will help change YOUR SUCCESS!
I don't NEED it. I have personal experience for that. The experts in this field merely back it up.Rescue Mission said:1) you are clinically insane, to think that nerdy scientific research is needed to figure out whether a hot bytch likes a good looking dude over a bad looking one.
You're right about this one. I definitely need a perspective overhaul. I have no self-esteem or confidence, which is why I don't get girls. I already know that I'm physically attractive to women. Walking around thinking I can get girls just because I'm physically attractive really isn't going to do the trick.try CHANGING your point of view, and maybe that will help change YOUR SUCCESS!
So wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait....you dismiss scientific research as "nerdy" and question the validity of it in favor of opinions, hunches, and theories but then turn right back around and begin beating the logic drum? You can't have it both ways, deary. Pick a side. What's it gonna be? Science and Logic or Theories and Conjecture?I prefer to shut them up with logic
:crackup: Wow. Just...wow.Falcon25 said:LOOKS ARE EVERYTHING.
You're still confusing appearance with looks? You have a real problem with reading comprehension. I've been explaining this very simple concept to you for months.The way you stand, the way you look, how big your muscles are, how your clothes fit you. How tall you are. How overweight or skinny. Girls look at these FIRST.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.