"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Should I continue this??

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Ok, I met this girl earlier this summer. I met her in my hometown. Come to find out she goes to the same college as I do. She goes back home every weekend to hang out with my friends.

When she is in college town she wants to hang out with me. She will call and want to go the same places as I do, but nothing has happened sexually ever.
Like she will call me and tell me to meet her somewhere and it may be at 2:00am (like tonight) but once I get there nothing happens.

I hate to break everything off because I like her as a person. Its almost like I hate to say its over as friends because I want her as a companion even if nothing sexual happens that way at least I have a girl to hang out with.

Its kinda sad on my part though because I want her to be around just so I can be around a hot girl, even though nothing sexual has happened, and it doesn't seem like its going too.

What should I do??
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Well have you ever tried kino on her or made any kind of move on her at all signaling your interest in her as more than friends?

Also you don't have to get rid of her if you enjoy her company as a friend and plus its quite possible you could use her to set you up with one of her hot friends or for social proof.
 
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Haha thats basically what I've been doing. I like the idea of the social proof thing. And yes I have applied kino a couple of times. Ok here's the situation.

I want to progress things towards something physical. But I don't want to because once I make a move on her and she doesn't take too well to it, then everytime we meet it will be weird.

It will be like "oh I think its so cute how he has a crush on me" or something like that. In a sense it would put her on a pedestal. Especially between me and her.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Like already said, the best thing to do is use her as social proof and also get to some hot friends of hers. If she won't introduce you to them or you find she never has you and them around at the same time, that's a red flag.

Right now it sounds like you're just her backup guy for attention. In that case it's unlikely you have a chance of progressing this to something physical. If you want to try it, you will find out she won't hate you for it (she already knows you want her), in fact she would probably respect you more if she assumes you don't have the guts to make a move. You find her attractive, you want to make a move - it's natural. It's MORE unusual for a guy and a chick to hang out late at night on many occassions WITHOUT something happening.

But if you get rejected, you might not want to be around her (which could actually be a good thing if this is really getting to you). She will only think you have a "crush" if you act wimpy or spill a bunch of emotions on her or are hurt by a rejection. So, DO NOT start verbalising your feelings - you try to kiss her, if she rejects it then that's it end of story, no asking for explanations etc.

On a more general note, if you want something physical to happen with a chick, it's your job to make it happen.
 
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