"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Should I continue this??

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Ok, I met this girl earlier this summer. I met her in my hometown. Come to find out she goes to the same college as I do. She goes back home every weekend to hang out with my friends.

When she is in college town she wants to hang out with me. She will call and want to go the same places as I do, but nothing has happened sexually ever.
Like she will call me and tell me to meet her somewhere and it may be at 2:00am (like tonight) but once I get there nothing happens.

I hate to break everything off because I like her as a person. Its almost like I hate to say its over as friends because I want her as a companion even if nothing sexual happens that way at least I have a girl to hang out with.

Its kinda sad on my part though because I want her to be around just so I can be around a hot girl, even though nothing sexual has happened, and it doesn't seem like its going too.

What should I do??
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Well have you ever tried kino on her or made any kind of move on her at all signaling your interest in her as more than friends?

Also you don't have to get rid of her if you enjoy her company as a friend and plus its quite possible you could use her to set you up with one of her hot friends or for social proof.
 
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Haha thats basically what I've been doing. I like the idea of the social proof thing. And yes I have applied kino a couple of times. Ok here's the situation.

I want to progress things towards something physical. But I don't want to because once I make a move on her and she doesn't take too well to it, then everytime we meet it will be weird.

It will be like "oh I think its so cute how he has a crush on me" or something like that. In a sense it would put her on a pedestal. Especially between me and her.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Like already said, the best thing to do is use her as social proof and also get to some hot friends of hers. If she won't introduce you to them or you find she never has you and them around at the same time, that's a red flag.

Right now it sounds like you're just her backup guy for attention. In that case it's unlikely you have a chance of progressing this to something physical. If you want to try it, you will find out she won't hate you for it (she already knows you want her), in fact she would probably respect you more if she assumes you don't have the guts to make a move. You find her attractive, you want to make a move - it's natural. It's MORE unusual for a guy and a chick to hang out late at night on many occassions WITHOUT something happening.

But if you get rejected, you might not want to be around her (which could actually be a good thing if this is really getting to you). She will only think you have a "crush" if you act wimpy or spill a bunch of emotions on her or are hurt by a rejection. So, DO NOT start verbalising your feelings - you try to kiss her, if she rejects it then that's it end of story, no asking for explanations etc.

On a more general note, if you want something physical to happen with a chick, it's your job to make it happen.
 
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