"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Should I change my style?

Nikar

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Today, I was talking to 2 female friends and one of them (Girl A, HB8.5) was going into a dance competition, and I asked her whether she'll be wearing those skin-tight translucent ballet spandex so that I can see through something.

She just giggle a little and then Girl B (HB5.5) cut in, and told me with a mildy disgusted look, and she said "You're really gross, u know?"

After that, I quickly move on to change the topic slightly by laughing it off and saying to Girl A, "So, you'll be wearing colorful uniforms? Maybe you can show us a video next time."

So, did I screw up? Or perhaps I should be more DJ? I dunno how to handle such comments when the girls seem to be truly disgusted with me.

I'm just trying to show a bit of my sexual side (and come one, which normal guy don't wanna see hot chicks in translucent spandex??!!)

Pls advise what I could have done better.
Now I'm scared they may start thinking I'm some sick pervert.

Girl A (HB8.5) seems to be a lot more receptive to my flirting advances, though. The other girl, Girl B,.......well, I can't really seem to connect well with her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Squidward

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Girl B ****blocked you mate, no question. Just my opinion here but it's usual better to make friends with the girl you're trying to game friends aswell, so they don't go talking smack about you to the girl you've trying to game.

I would of replied to Girl B with a witty comment ;) But thats me...
 

Rounder

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Girl B was so jealous it's hilarious! If you would have said something like that to her she would have been unzipping your fly with her teeth!

I've decided I will not apologize to women for wanting sex or being interested in their bodies. I sure as hell used to do that, but not anymore.

As soon as we are "nice and sweet" and saying all the things we "think" they want to hear - the very next minute they are wanting the guy in the leather jacket and ripped jeans who will take advantage of them.

Girl A liked the comment - Girl B was jealous. The fact that Girl B didn't like it - will make Girl A want you even more.

How many times do we tell a friend - dude, what the hell are you doing with her? You need to dump her! - and what does our friend do? He will try even harder to prove he's right and stay with her! Girls do the same thing - the more her friend tries to dissuade her from seeing you, the faster you'll get in her pants.

Hopefully you didn't defend yourself to Girl B, no reason for that.
 

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You could always say to girl B "what, you don't think she [8.5] would look hot in _____?" And put the 5.5 on the spot. I think getting one girl to vocally admit that she is inferior helps you game the hot one even more.
 

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Duffdog said:
You could always say to girl B "what, you don't think she [8.5] would look hot in _____?" And put the 5.5 on the spot. I think getting one girl to vocally admit that she is inferior helps you game the hot one even more.
QFT
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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JJMcLure

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Girl B was just hating because she was jealous. Don't sweat it and maintain a strong frame in these situations. It's Girl A's reaction that counts.

However, just be wary if there's potential for Girl B to become an obstacle and start ****blocking you by dissing you behind you back. In that case make sure to disarm the obstacle. Regarding connecting with Girl B, she likely has low self esteem so resultingly puts up a shield. Approaches like overly ****y funny or neg hits directed at these type of insecure chicks can crush them so calibrate your approach to her.
 
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