"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Should I call?

Vincent Freeman

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Alright, so I met this Hb not so long ago at the library and we hit it off. We spoke for about 3 hrs and I walked out with her digits. Now we met up once for lunch and spoke for another few hours. I kept the convo interesting and she kept on asking me questions, so it was obvious she was engaged (good eye contact). Now, I called her last weekend to see if she wanted to get some coffee but she was busy studying for an exam she had the next morning. Nonetheless, she told me she would call me back some time this weekend so we could get together after her exam. Now, usually I would not call her back considering the ball is back on her court and I have pride, but it seems to me this chic is playing hard to get. Should I just blow her off or should I wait and call one last time?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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busy studying for an exam she had the next morning. Nonetheless, she told me she would call me back some time this weekend so we could get together after her exam. Now, usually I would not call her back considering the ball is back on her court and I have pride, but it seems to me this chic is playing hard to get. Should I just blow her off or should I wait and call one last time?
Pride sucks eh? Seriously, if she legimately had an exam to study for, what are you doing with your thumb up your ass wondering if she blew you off?!?

Phone her and set up another day, if she gives another excuse...well, THAT'S When you reconsider.

That, and kick yourself where it hurts for being so bluntly stupid about your pride.
 

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Originally posted by Docs
Pride sucks eh? Seriously, if she legimately had an exam to study for, what are you doing with your thumb up your ass wondering if she blew you off?!?

Phone her and set up another day, if she gives another excuse...well, THAT'S When you reconsider.

That, and kick yourself where it hurts for being so bluntly stupid about your pride.
well said!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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