"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hi Guys....Broke up with Ex girlfriend close to 8 months ago. We were together for 8 and half years.We were together since she was 18 yrs old. I have tried to talk to her about getting back together but she says that she has moved on. Once in a while I will call or text her and she will mention/complain that she doesn't hear from me but when I talk to her she says that she has moved on. Should I call her more or keep no contact? I would like to get back with her. Any advice??...Thank you!!





update: I suggested that we meet up for coffee recently and she agreed but not sure whether any of this is a positive sign. Most likely not:) I was also surprised to see that she still has a bunch of pictures of me and her on facebook.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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MOTU

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Let her go dude. She wants the security of knowing you still dote on her, but she is done with you. Go NC and spin some plates and it will be all better.
 
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Johnny Alias

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You have to let her go. Block her completely so you're not tempted to respond to texts or calls once she realizes you have dropped off the planet. Right now youre coming off as desperate. I've been there believe me.

All relationships end. This isn't a damned fairy tale. Spin plates. Dont talk to her again. When you finally run into her somewhere months down the road you hopefully wont give a crap... and she will notice... but you wont give a crap. Get it?
 
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abe0

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It sucks...you had an 8 year investment....almost like a marriage and you still love her. Unfortunately, it is time to let go and move on just like she has. Sounds like she is meeting you as a friend and I would not put any stock in that meeting. Best, Abe
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Black Widow Void

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I'm betting that many of us have been there. The urge to see her may override the logic of avoiding an unpleasant outcome.

No one likes to log in and see discouraging advice, but we write because we've been there and hope to prevent others form the same mistakes.

My advice is to send her a text two days before with something like "hate to bail out, but something came up. Cheers" (or sign off with something positive) .
 
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I was in this situation before, she will just keep you with the illusion of coming back and you will get more emotionally attached to her.

Yeah I'm very sorry dude, but the best is to move on. Get a new hobby, do things what you want, hang out with new friends, it will help you think less about her and more about you.
 
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