"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Should I break up?

SayWhat

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I've always liked my freedom and a couple of days in the week I just want to be on my own. Get in the couch with a good beer, watch a good show or play some games.

But with my current girlfriend, I really like her, I think, when we're together it's always a good time and we have a lot of fun. But when through the week she asks if we could get together I tend to come up with excuses because I just feel like I want to be on myself that night. I know some people have this too, but is it a sign that I just don't like her enough?

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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backseatjuan

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If you gonna break up make a video of it and post it on youtube for us to see. I think it would be an awesome sight - oh girlfriend, I really like you, but I don't think we should see each other anymore, you see, I love drinking beer and sitting on the couch and playing video games, alone, and you always break that fun for me, so it's not you, it's me, bye. :crackup:
 

SayWhat

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It indeed sounds weird, but I just need to have some time for myself from time to time. It's not just the gaming or watching a show, it's also going on a 300 mile long drive with my car alone.

I know everyone has this need to do what he wants to do without his girl, I'm just wondering if it's weird to not want to see her for a night even though you like her.

And yeah I might be an introvert. But in a small way according to some of the symptoms I read.
 

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Keep doing what you're doing. Spending 24/7 together is probably the most unhealthy sh!t you can do and also the quickest way to a burnout. It really is disgusting.

You should have hobbies and interests outside of your relationship, and so should she. I don't care how stupid they may or may not sound.
You're on the right track.
 

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Ye you should do stuff apart but if you collect post stamps and she goes clubbing or in reverse its a problem.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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BrainDamage92 said:
Ye you should do stuff apart but if you collect post stamps and she goes clubbing or in reverse its a problem.
It really isn't. Her going clubbing is not equivalent to her fvcking half the dudes in that club.
 

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Don't be an a**. If you want to be alone or spend time with friends then tell her. If she likes you she'll understand and give you space. If your IL is low then be grown up and tell her straight. No harm done and no hard feelings.

'If you gonna break up make a video of it and post it on youtube for us to see' wtf? It is this kinda comment which lowers the value of this site. It is not about treating women like sh!t. It;s being matured enough to handle ourselves with class and dignity.
 

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We all need some time for ourselves so if you like to do those things, don't stop. However, don't lie to her. Tell her that you simply need some time for yourself. If she loves you, she will understand. I am sure she likes to do some things too...So, make some compromise.
 

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Onion said:
'If you gonna break up make a video of it and post it on youtube for us to see' wtf? It is this kinda comment which lowers the value of this site. It is not about treating women like sh!t. It;s being matured enough to handle ourselves with class and dignity.
This woman hate shít getting on my last nerve.
 

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
Sign of a healthy relationship and that you might be introverted
Pairs stole my thunder. I'm an introv as well and need the same alone time. Good to recharge the batteries and enjoy a cold frosty in peace. :yes:

A couple days in the week...on average how often do you see her in a week?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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You said you like her, so what's the problem? You don't need to have oneitis for her to 'like her enough'. Just do stuff on your own terms. No big deal.
 
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