"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Should I break no contact to suggest she go see a "real" doctor???

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Should I break radio silence in the form of an email to suggest she go see a real doctor, something of the lines of, " Sorry to break radio silence, I respect how you may be feeling physically, may I suggest you see your brother's family doctor and take your book on your illness with you... no reply to this email is necessary "
I am reluctant to do this but I feel as if I should. What do you guys think?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Moving on is the best way to love her. You can not give a real love to anyone until you respect yourself enough to love yourself enough first. How can you give before you have? Right now, discipline is your action of love, to yourself and her as well. Time will revel this to you. But only after you achieve it. Stay the course.
 
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no contact means, no contact, you put that up when you want to move on and not waste time on a female again, so tell me in that context why you would even contact her? she will not really follow what you said. what I would ask of you is why you are still caring?
 
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It's not your job to fix her. Man's greatest weakness is his facade of strength, and woman's greatest strength is her facade of weakness. When it matters to them, women are very resilient.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Be genuinely forthcoming with your intent. Therein lies the answer. It was never really about her, was it? It is about you and your desire for her. If I could see through this facade with typed words, don't you think she, too, will decipher your attempted machination of desperation?

If you want her, be genuine and overt with your intent. It will take you much further. But before you needlessly act on your "want," ask yourself if your desire for her is founded on desperation, a place of lack--or strength, a place of wholeness. If the former (and by your attempted machination, it appears it is), you are not ready.
 
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Inthink something may be wrong with her... I swear I think she should get a 2nd opinion from a real md. But It is not my problem... no contact...I swear I am genuinely concerned but because I was weak before, I can't do that..Thanks guys... you have really been helpful...
I am living with the fact that I f'ed up...being needy and insecure...I feel so stupid... I just lost my way....I just lost my way during my mom's illnessvand death.. and I am trying to claw my way back into manliness. I f'ed up
up. I am going to be better because I am taking a hard look at myself...
I didn't expect our reconnecting to go the way it did..distance and all.But this page has really taught me a lot, and some of you bros are hella funny..
 
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