"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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should I be worried?

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I've been going out with my girlfriend for 2 weeks now...but we've been hanging out for a month prior to going out. Anyway , everything is going good. Everytime we hang out, we seem to have a good time, and we have nice intimate moments, we havent done anything beyond kissing yet though. Anyway, thats jus a bit of my background wit her.

There is this other guy, he goes to her school and she brought him up prior to us going out when we just used to hang out. I have no idea what their history is but i know he talks to her on msn and i've met him when we were out one time where he approached us, we were in a group and instantly started hitting on my girlfriend... iam really playing this i dont give a **** attitude to anything, thats basicly how i got her , so i try not to say anything about it and today she told me how he wanted her to come out with him and basicly said she was considering it... so i jus told her to go, (the i dont give a **** attitude) and right away she told me how she already said no and she wants to come with me ... anyway, this is starting to piss me of. I know this dude doesnt like me, and i dont like him... even thought i told my girlfriend i have nothing against him. Basicly should i be worried? I dont know how she feels about him... but wat should i do? wat should I tell her?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Well first off...I'm not sure what you mean by "Come out" with him, but it sounds like she isn't really that interested in him, or at least is more interested in you. So I wouldn't think you have much to be worried about...
 
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If your girlfriend is worth anything, then worry little.
 
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Yeah by her saying that she already said no and wants you to 'come out' with her makes me believe she has more interest in you.
 
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if i were in your position id wait for him to come up to my girlfriend and start flirting with her. then id go up to him then say almost jokingly, "you wanna quit tryin to pick up my girlfriend?". then he'll been on the spot, and he'll know that you dont like appreciate his actions.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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teedos advice is the best. Dont say anything to your girl about it. say something to the guy about it
 
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