"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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should I be worried?

fiddlemethis

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I've been going out with my girlfriend for 2 weeks now...but we've been hanging out for a month prior to going out. Anyway , everything is going good. Everytime we hang out, we seem to have a good time, and we have nice intimate moments, we havent done anything beyond kissing yet though. Anyway, thats jus a bit of my background wit her.

There is this other guy, he goes to her school and she brought him up prior to us going out when we just used to hang out. I have no idea what their history is but i know he talks to her on msn and i've met him when we were out one time where he approached us, we were in a group and instantly started hitting on my girlfriend... iam really playing this i dont give a **** attitude to anything, thats basicly how i got her , so i try not to say anything about it and today she told me how he wanted her to come out with him and basicly said she was considering it... so i jus told her to go, (the i dont give a **** attitude) and right away she told me how she already said no and she wants to come with me ... anyway, this is starting to piss me of. I know this dude doesnt like me, and i dont like him... even thought i told my girlfriend i have nothing against him. Basicly should i be worried? I dont know how she feels about him... but wat should i do? wat should I tell her?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DJoneday

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Well first off...I'm not sure what you mean by "Come out" with him, but it sounds like she isn't really that interested in him, or at least is more interested in you. So I wouldn't think you have much to be worried about...
 

LikRetsam

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If your girlfriend is worth anything, then worry little.
 

SparkleMotion

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Yeah by her saying that she already said no and wants you to 'come out' with her makes me believe she has more interest in you.
 

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if i were in your position id wait for him to come up to my girlfriend and start flirting with her. then id go up to him then say almost jokingly, "you wanna quit tryin to pick up my girlfriend?". then he'll been on the spot, and he'll know that you dont like appreciate his actions.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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fezz

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teedos advice is the best. Dont say anything to your girl about it. say something to the guy about it
 
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