"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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should I be pi$$ed?

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My gf was hanging out with a friend of hers and this friends FB (a guy). Anyways, I asked her if she got hit on by anybody at the bar (jokingly) and she says that her friends FB was hitting on her but she told him that she had a boyfriend and wasn't interested. She gets a text last night and doesn't know who it's from but then says 'oh it's so and so's FB'. She says that he has texted her before and claims that she never responds. So if that is true then this guy is a real chump because he's been texting with no reply for 2 weeks or more.

But, now I'm pissed because the only way that he could've got her cell # is that she gave it to him or her friend gave it to him. Either way I'm like wtf? I let it slide last night when we were talking about it but this morning I'm pissed because I just realized that these are the only 2 ways that he could have got the #. Should I be pissed? And if so, is it too late to confront her about it? Or does that just make me look like the chump?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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WestCoaster

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Make a joke, "Hey, how did he get your number, osmosis?"

If she says she dished it to him, don't blow up ... but start scanning the field for other women. Spin some more plates, date others if she dished it because that's the first domino that she'll push in order to get out. If her friend dished it, no biggie.

But yeah, if she gave it to him, definitely start playing the field. Committed gf's don't give out numbers; one's that are looking do.

I suggest start playing the field before she does, that gives you more power.
 

jefe96

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This girl is just too nice and will be everybody's friend, which gets her into trouble as I am finding out. I definitely need to put a stop to it and let her know that it won't be tolerated. She's never been in a 'real relationship/LTR' before and is not totally sure of what to do or not to do, which is half the problem. This is the same girl who tells me she could never love anyone as much as she loves me, so I don't really think that she's up to anything, just trying to please everybody. So I'll have to let her know that her behavior is not pleasing me and then I think we'll be ok.
 

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Do you think your GF's friend would give her own FB's your GF's number ?
and if she did your relationship is not being respected

You need to put this girl in check and fast
make sure your girl understands it wont be tolerated for even a minute

Put your foot down NOW, but I would start looking around, something aint kosher
 

penkitten

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he could have got it off his fb's phone when she wasnt looking or caller id .
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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my opinion

do not make a jealous scene look cool as if is not a big deal, besides open your eyes for more clues, at the sign of she is playing with you, next, but there is not enough evidence that she is, get more info.
 

penkitten

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dont make a big deal? his gfs friend's fb is calling / texting her
thats bs
i would be mad
 
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