"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Should I be giving in?

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Been going out with my girlfriend for a while now, been remaining a challenge, keeping 'i love you's' to a minimum and applied 90% of the DJ mindset.

I'm still learning the concepts and engraving it slowly into my brain for DJism to become nature - I've seen huge improvements already but good things take time.

Anyway our school ball (prom) is coming up in a month and for the afterball, I wanna go and have fun with my friends and create history, but she wants us to hire out a hotel room (which a few other couples are doing) and spend the night together. At first I disagreed and told her that I wanna be with my friends for the night, which she quietly got a little bit pissed at - I think she got a feeling of unappreciation because this is something she's really looking forward to. I came to the realization that it is her prom night and that it's what every girl looks back on when they think of their high-school years. So I've decided to go with the hotel room idea, and dedicate the majority of the night to her.

Basically should I 'wow' her with my attention and dedication, or should I stick to my origional desires?

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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Yo'Mama

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Sorry to laugh dude. I think the word you were looking for is 'supplicating'.
 
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Gamtiwia

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Some would say this is a sticky situation while others will say this is a no brainer. But I think you should give the girl what she wants. Not sure how you view these reasons but:

1) Nothing's wrong with letting a girl have a good time
2) IT COULD BE PRETTY FUN
3) Hanging out with your friends sounds so generic and is proly a repeatable endeavor
4) SHE'S YOUR GIRLFRIEND, this could be a critical point in the relationship, the defining moment, the cornerstone, who knows?

If this were just any old night, blowing her off wouldn't be as a big deal. But that's not the case.

Just wondering, are ALL your friends going to blow off their girlfriends just to have out?

Not sure what that other guy Yo' mama was talking about but I don't think that you are supplicating.
 
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Slick Rick-NZ

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Yeah I reckon go with the hotel and all. Perhaps you could take her out with you and your mates for a bit and then go back to the hotel as it would be pritty boring to go straight there.
Slick..
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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