"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Should I be giving in?

dylkel

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Been going out with my girlfriend for a while now, been remaining a challenge, keeping 'i love you's' to a minimum and applied 90% of the DJ mindset.

I'm still learning the concepts and engraving it slowly into my brain for DJism to become nature - I've seen huge improvements already but good things take time.

Anyway our school ball (prom) is coming up in a month and for the afterball, I wanna go and have fun with my friends and create history, but she wants us to hire out a hotel room (which a few other couples are doing) and spend the night together. At first I disagreed and told her that I wanna be with my friends for the night, which she quietly got a little bit pissed at - I think she got a feeling of unappreciation because this is something she's really looking forward to. I came to the realization that it is her prom night and that it's what every girl looks back on when they think of their high-school years. So I've decided to go with the hotel room idea, and dedicate the majority of the night to her.

Basically should I 'wow' her with my attention and dedication, or should I stick to my origional desires?

Thoughts are appreciated
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Yo'Mama

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Sorry to laugh dude. I think the word you were looking for is 'supplicating'.
 

Gamtiwia

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Some would say this is a sticky situation while others will say this is a no brainer. But I think you should give the girl what she wants. Not sure how you view these reasons but:

1) Nothing's wrong with letting a girl have a good time
2) IT COULD BE PRETTY FUN
3) Hanging out with your friends sounds so generic and is proly a repeatable endeavor
4) SHE'S YOUR GIRLFRIEND, this could be a critical point in the relationship, the defining moment, the cornerstone, who knows?

If this were just any old night, blowing her off wouldn't be as a big deal. But that's not the case.

Just wondering, are ALL your friends going to blow off their girlfriends just to have out?

Not sure what that other guy Yo' mama was talking about but I don't think that you are supplicating.
 

Slick Rick-NZ

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Yeah I reckon go with the hotel and all. Perhaps you could take her out with you and your mates for a bit and then go back to the hotel as it would be pritty boring to go straight there.
Slick..
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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